Journalistic Misrepresentation at Slate's New Woman-Oriented Publication "Double X"

By Mark B. Rosenthal

November 7, 2009

On Thursday, November 5, 2009, Slate.com's new woman-oriented publication "Double X" published Kathryn Joyce's article "'Men's Rights' Groups Have Become Frighteningly Effective," based in large part on her interview with me.

When Ms. Joyce first contacted me, she clearly stated that she considers herself a feminist. But the label "feminist" means different things to different people. There are many people I respect who sincerely believe that calling themselves "feminist" means they support equal treatment for men as well as for women. Unfortunately there are also many people who publicly proclaim that "feminist" means equal treatment, but accept as an article of faith that all women are oppressed and all men are oppressors.

I've found that conversations that rely heavily on labels tend to close minds, whereas conversations that avoid labels and instead discuss real human experience can often be far more productive in opening minds. I chose to speak to Ms. Joyce fully aware that her friendly demeanor might be nothing more than play-acting to mask an "all men are oppressors" attitude, but hopeful that she might truly believe in equal treatment for all and might be capable of ordinary human compassion. On occasion I've had some success informing "equal treatment for all" type feminists about injustices they've previously been unaware of, and building bridges to people like that is one of the most effective steps one can take toward healing the injustices and suffering in the world. So I felt it worthwhile to make the effort with Ms. Joyce. Although I was disappointed, I was not surprised to find that when the mask was removed, she turned out to be an "all men are oppressors" type feminist.

According to the Code of Ethics of the Society of Professional Journalists (http://www.spj.org/ethicscode.asp), journalistic ethics require that journalists:

seek truth and report it,

that journalists:

Test the accuracy of information from all sources and exercise care to avoid inadvertent error. Deliberate distortion is never permissible.

and that journalists:

Distinguish between advocacy and news reporting. Analysis and commentary should be labeled and not misrepresent fact or context...http://www.breakingthescience.org/DoubleXMisrepresentation.php

Fathers-4-Justice Daddys-2-Jail?

Fathers-4-Justice equal parenting CRANE PROTEST goes to trial Published on November 10, 2009 by MrPressRelease.com (MrPressRelease.com and OfficialWire) WEST PALM BEACH, FL

If Franklin County Ohio prosecutor Ron O’brien gets his way, two fathers, Donald Tenn and Paul Fisher will be spending the next 18 months in prison with fines yet to be determined, why? For being good, fit, willing fathers, that’s why. On September 27, 2008 these two fathers hung a banner off a construction crane on the Columbus campus of the Ohio State University. The banner stated “Stop the war on Fatherhood” and “Fathers 4 Justice” The two fathers claimed that the family courts of this nation are gender biased against fathers. Donald Tenn who was a stay at home daddy and primary care-giver to his daughter Madison, has only seen his daughter for a total of 5 hours in the last 42 months. Paul Fisher’s parenting time was changed from every other day to 4 days a month. Why is this happening? America’s family courts are making archaic rulings which are preventing our children from their true best interests, BOTH fit and willing parents. Protests by Fathers 4 Justice members and supporters are planned to take place outside of the courthouse throughout the week. This campaign garnered their cause and the organization International attention. Fathers 4 Justice has been actively campaigning for a change to what they call a corrupt and unfair family court system here in the United States since 2004. The group originated in the United Kingdom in 2002 and has gained International recognition with clever stunts always utilizing their children’s favorite Superhero costumes. MEDIA CONTACT ON Fathers-4-Justice For more information on Fathers-4-Justice or for an interview please e-mail Bob Saunders at: f4j_media@yahoo.com or call: (916) 226-9226 or visit our website at: www.f4j.com. Mr. Tenn will also be available for interviews in front of the Franklin County Courthouse. F4J is a 501(c)(3) non-profit, volunteer army of fathers, mothers, grandparents, and others dedicated to fighting for truth, justice and equality in family law. MEDIA CLIPS http://mensnewsdaily.com/2008/09/30/superhero-daddy-activist-endures-extreme-weather/ Please send the attached press release to every TV, Radio and newspaper in Columbus, Ohio and the surrounding area. CNN / HLN video of Ohio crane protest, also THANKS to 84 stations across the nation for further promoting our efforts! http://lnk.ms/4N8j7 Video of Fathers 4 Justice Ohio Crane protest http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FORndjWToR4 http://www.officialwire.com/main.php?action=posted_news&rid=34760&catid=1075

Former West Dundee woman gets 3 years in prison for abducting her two children

November 10, 2009

By EMILY McFARLAN emcfarlan@scn1.com

WEST DUNDEE — A former West Dundee woman was sentenced to prison for abducting her two minor children in 2004.

Crystel A. Strelioff, 53, was sentenced Friday by 16th Circuit Court Associate Judge T. Jordan Gallagher to three years in the Illinois Department of Corrections.

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Crystel A. Strelioff

A Kane County jury had convicted Strelioff of four counts of child abduction — each a Class 4 felony — after a three-day trial in February. She later was arrested on a warrant and has been in custody at the Kane County Jail since May, according to the state's attorney's office.

In February 2004, Strelioff intentionally violated a court order by taking her two children from the jurisdiction of the Kane County court to California, according to authorities. Her last known address was in Newhall, Calif.

The court order was issued by a Kane County judge in an April 2000 custody ruling. The ruling noted that a psychologist had reported Strelioff's "conduct is a form of parental alienation toward" her ex-husband. For that and other reasons, custody of the two children was granted to their father, Brian Strelioff, the judge's ruling said.

One child is no longer a minor, and the other is under 13, according to the state's attorney's office.

In addition to the prison sentence, Strelioff was ordered to pay $73,340 in restitution to Brian Streliof. She was given day-for-day sentencing, as well as credit for 185 days already served in the Kane County Jail.

http://www.suburbanchicagonews.com/couriernews/news/1873971,West-Dundee-mom-abduction-prison_EL110909.article

CANTERBURY CATHEDRAL PROTEST 4TH DEC 2009

Host:	██████ NEWFATHERS4JUSTICE ( sussex ) ██████
Type:	Causes - Protest
Network:	Global

Date:	Friday, December 4, 2009
Time:	10:00am - 2:00pm

CANTERBURY CATHEDRAL PROTEST

4TH DEC 2009

THIS IS A HIGH PROFILE PROTEST BY THE INFAMOUS GROUP NEW FATHERS 4 JUSTICE .

THE GROUP WILL BE ATTENDING CANTERBURY CATHEDRAL FOR THE FIRST TIME IN THE "PUT THE FATHER BACK INTO CHRISTMAS PROTEST".

DRESSED IN SANTA OUTFITS, WE WILL YET AGAIN ATTEMPT TO GET OUR MESSAGE ACROSS TO THE CHURCH, WHOM LIKE THIS ARROGANT LABOUR GOVERNMENT HAVE IGNORED THE PLIGHT OF FATHERS FOR YEARS.

THE GROUP HAS DECIDED TO TAKE THERE CAMPAIGN BACK TO THE CHURCH AS THEY AND THEIR SYNOD HAVE NOT DEBATED FAMILY BREAKDOWN SINCE 1991 !

USUAL CLAD ! SANTA OUTFIT A PRIORITY , BANNERS , HORNS ETC....


WE WILL ALSO VISIT :

CAFCASS
Barton Mill Road
Canterbury
Kent CT1 1BP

family court/combined court,
chaucer rd,
Canterbury
ct1 1za

PLUS A NUMBER OF NASTY FAMILY COURT SOLICITORS.

WHILE WE'RE THERE !

PUT THE FATHER BACK
INTO CHRISTMAS !

New Fathers 4 Justice view the current stance of the Church of England with great dismay - the lack of leadership on an important matter of modern-day family life, divorce and protection of young children's rights to both parents and extended families.
For this reason we can not rule out direct action at religious services this Xmas. Dads are annoyed with the C of E and there has been much talk of this type of protest.
As priests, vicars, and Bishops they occupy possibly the most powerful seats of influence on how family life should be conducted. From high moral ground almost always they see their role as clergymen to lead their flock along a path to honesty and godliness yet,

The Synod has not debated family breakdown since 1991 !

Children need and deserve the love, nurturing, social skills and discipline that can only be provided from contact with both their mother and father, with help from their grandparents.

Fathers are also part of their flock who need their help please yet they fail to speak out about this problem that causes so much pain.

As shepherds of God's flock, I cannot think of any greater sin than to idle in ignorance to the needs of God's family while an unfair system of family law abounds blatantly under one's nose.

The flawed system allows children to be exposed to a succession of mums' fleeting boyfriends, lovers and stepfathers with whom they have no biological connection but gives no automatic right of access to their real dads or grandparents !
Children need contact with both a mother and a father and with extended families to provide the love, care, nurturing and discipline necessary for a happy childhood. We as dads and grandparents love our children and just wish to spend time with them but the present system breeds demoralisation in the home and workplace, compounded with further damage to even the sanest person's mental health.

The Church of England and it representatives must stop ignoring the consequences of family breakdown.

Parental Alienation on W5 - CTV Canada ~ Children on the frontlines of divorce

W5 investigates: Children on the frontlines of divorce W5 Staff Updated: Sat. Nov. 7 2009 6:58 PM ET The world of divorce is scary for any child. Even when spouses split amicably children can be forced to balance their love and time between two parents. But when a divorce becomes especially toxic children can become the target of an unrelenting crusade by one parent to destroy the child's relationship with the other. Experts call it parental alienation, a persistent campaign by one parent to poison a child's relationship with the other parent. Typical tactics include lying or making false allegations about the targeted parent, refusing to let the child see the other parent, even punishing the child for showing affection for the other parent. Experts claim, in its more extreme forms, it is child abuse. Pamela Richardson For almost 12 years, Pamela Richardson rarely saw her son Dash because of the campaign her ex-husband waged against her. According to Richardson, after her marriage dissolved her ex-husband, who had custody of the then-four-year-old, did everything he could to alienate Dash from his mother - fabricating illness, booking activities for Dash to prevent visits; he even arranged to have Richardson banned from Dash's school. "I wouldn't see Dash for, you know, a number of months and not without me trying, not without me doing all the classic things that alienated parents do -- cookies on the doorstop, faxes, phone calls, notes, trying to see him at friends' houses -- everything you possibly can to keep that thread of a relationship alive," said Richardson. Despite a court order giving her regular visits with Dash, Richardson said her ex-husband did everything he could to keep them apart and to convince their son that she was a bad and uncaring mother. "There was period of two years, and I added up the hours (with Dash) and it came to 24 - in two years," Richardson lamented. Richardson said she wasn't the only one suffering as a result of the alienation - Dash was suffering too. Alienated from his mother, the once happy little boy turned into an isolated, depressed and angry teenager. On January 1, 2001, Dash, then 16, jumped off Vancouver's Granville Street bridge, in the middle of the night, to his death. While Richardson blames her ex-husband, she also blames a court system that she insists did little to intervene and help. "This is extreme and this was something that was in the courts many, many times...they had an opportunity to do something and they didn't," said Richardson. Parental Alienation and the Courts Courts are paying more attention. Family court judges are increasingly considering issues of parental alienation in deciding custody. Justice Harvey Brownstone is a family court judge in Toronto and the author of a book on the bitter realities of divorce court. "Parents who are on a campaign to destroy the child's relationship with the other parent could lose custody and, in extreme cases, courts have changed custody to the other parent," said Brownstone. He encourages divorcing couples to focus on parenting together rather than using children as a tool of revenge, dragging them through protracted, bitter family feuds. "While there may be some therapeutic benefits to coming to court and venting and telling a judge how much you were hurt by the other parent's infidelities or bad conduct, at the end of the day, we are looking at parenting capacity, parenting skills," he said. "We need to look at how couples are going to reinvent themselves from ex-partners to co-parents." Co-parenting The concept of divorced parents co-parenting isn't new for psychologists Peggie Ward and Robin Deutsch. They bring bad-mouthing alienating parents, targeted parents, and their children to a camp in Vermont in an effort to help these broken families learn new ways to properly raise their children Eight-year-old Tori Cercone knows first hand how it feels to be caught in the middle of a high conflict divorce. "What is so painful is that your mom and dad get separated and they don't like each other but you like both. And it's kind of like a contest who you like better" Two years ago Tori's parents Fran Beecy and Chris Cercone couldn't stand to be in the same room after Beecy made abuse allegations against her ex-husband. "Oh my God, he hated me," said Beecy. "I was like the big mother bear guarding the door, not letting my ex-husband near my kids...I just wanted to protect them, to keep them safe. And yet he, on the other hand, was just like 'these are my kids, I want to see them. I have every right to see them.'" Divorce camp in Vermont changed everything. Today, they visit together, gather for family dinners, and get along. As Cercone explained, "whichever side you're on, whether you're the alienated or the alienator, you've got to come to grips that it can't be about how I feel or getting back at the other one." "I think I'm a better mom because I'm happier," said Beecy. "I'm not trying to create any wedges between my kids and their dad." Email W5 directly about this story

http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20091106/w5_divorce_091107/20091107?hub=WFive

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Law Times Canada ~ Judge reverses parental alienation ruling

I have followed this case for some time and it has always amazed me how dysfunctional child disputes with this form of emotional abuse (PA) can get. I have also always been curious where this dad seems to get the money for counsel if he is on welfare as has been reported in the media in the past? I have no doubt Parental Alienation exists and I have observed its impact on the children and target parent first hand.

I have also observed the clear gender bias of Family Courts in Canada when it comes to physical custody whereby mom gets it in over 90% of cases. Judges and indeed lawyers for men, based on anecdotal stories by these men, seem predisposed to ensuring maternal custody takes place and it is usually only a dad of means who can afford the "experts" to obtain even a remote chance of obtaining custody or shared parenting at the least. These men report they are advised by their counsel that judges don't award dads custody so take what you can get and save some money.MJM






Controversial trend continues because opposing parents lack funds: lawyer

By Heather Capannelli | Publication Date: Monday, 09 November 2009

In another case underscoring the controversy over parental alienation workshops, Justice Thea Herman of the Ontario Superior Court struck down part of an arbitrator’s award earlier this year that would have removed two teenage boys from the custody of their father and sent them to Texas. The decision follows a series of judgments in which Ontario courts have ordered a change in custody and sent the custodial parent along with the children to participate in the workshop.

In S.G.B. v. S.J.L., the court set aside part of an award concluding that the workshop was in the best interest of the boys because the arbitrator relied too heavily on an assessment of them prepared by Richard Warshak, who admitted he hadn’t met them personally.

In his testimony and written evidence, the psychologist and author explicitly declined to make recommendations with respect to the children because he had never observed them before.

Yet the arbitrator ordered that the remedy was “necessary for the children in this case and completely consonant with their best interests.” Herman, however, decided that in making such a finding, the arbitrator’s order amounted to a “fundamental error.”

Another issue arose prior to the hearing when the father asked the arbitrator to order an assessment to determine the appropriateness of the workshop for the children.

The arbitrator declined to do so, instead relying on his own experience as a custody and access assessor. But Herman rebuked that decision, saying “the arbitrator’s experience can only be brought to bear on the evidence. The arbitrator cannot create evidence.”

In addition, Herman said the arbitrator failed to consider the psychological impact the workshop would have on the younger boy. He suffered from Klinefelter syndrome, a genetic disorder that, among other things, caused a language delay.

The facts of the case were as follows. The applicant, the father, and the respondent mother entered into the arbitration to help resolve issues surrounding their two sons L.B. and J.B., aged 17 and 14 respectively. The parents had been divorced since May 1999 and since then, the mother experienced an estranged relationship with both of her children.

After several attempts to resolve disputes about custody, access, and raising the children, both parents agreed to what turned out to be an unsuccessful arbitration in August 2007.

The proceedings were due to continue on Nov. 20, 2007, but the father brought a pre-hearing motion to prevent the arbitrator from making an order that might result in the children leaving the province given that the mother had been in consultation with Warshak for several years despite the fact that he had never met the boys. The motion was denied.

The arbitration took place in February and March 2008 and, based on Warshak’s report that the children were suffering irrational alienation towards their mother, the arbitrator awarded sole custody of both children to her and ordered that they participate in the workshop to help to restore their ties with her.

Logistically, this meant no contact with their father for the three months that the boys were in the program. Once the workshop concluded, communications could resume as long as those in charge authorized them.

The order also allowed the mother to use transporting agents to take her children to the workshop in Texas if they were unwilling to go on their own volition.

“The work of Dr. Warshak has been submitted for peer review so it’s not as controversial as the media hype may lead some to believe,” says Jaret Moldaver, counsel for the mother. “Dr. Warshak has successfully worked with children who have been alienated, and in cases where conventional approaches don’t work, it’s the only viable option to save the child from abuse.”

A larger issue, however, is that often these cases come down to a battle of costly expert evidence, says the father’s counsel, Jan Weir.

“My concern is that in most of these cases, it appears that one parent has the financial means to retain high-end counsel and experts like Dr. Warshak, but the other parent seems to have modest means and never retains an expert, meaning that they can’t lead evidence against the findings or methodology of Dr. Warshak.”

A week at the workshop costs about US$40,000.

According to Warshak, parental alienation syndrome is “a child’s unjustified campaign of denigration against, or rejection of, one parent, due to the influence of the other parent combined with the child’s own contributions.”

It is recognized as a form of emotional abuse that happens when parents get so caught up in their own problems that they lose sight of their children’s needs.

In an interview in 2008 with Maclean’s magazine, Warshak said the workshop “teaches children how to stay out of the middle of adult conflicts and how to maintain a compassionate view toward each parent” and that it helps the child “recapture a major part of his identity.

When the child no longer feels the need to pledge allegiance to one parent by rejecting the other, that’s enormously liberating.”

But Weir says the test in law for admissibility of expert evidence is whether it’s generally accepted by the profession. That’s because courts don’t interpret the evidence of experts on their own. “Is this a method that’s generally accepted by the profession at large?” says Weir.

“This kind of evidence is getting in because the parents who are on the receiving end just don’t have the funds to retain an expert to say that it’s not, that it’s untested.”

http://www.lawtimesnews.com/200911095758/Headline-News/Judge-reverses-parental-alienation-ruling

The Spoilt Generation by Dr Aric Sigman

My ex is a very passive parent and actually rewards the children by letting them reach in a box for toys if they stop fighting. Since she has kept temporary custody (what an oxymoron that is) since 2005 the children have a lot of power. Rather than being disciplined they are rewarded. The message the bigger sister might get from this is all I have to do is beat up my smaller sister to get a toy. This is what happens in single mom homes where no authority figure is present and, in addition, because she works the kids come home to an empty house every day and fend for themselves. Meanwhile I'm available 24/7 but the courts do not want to sway from their 14% visitation. Their social engineering contributes to negative outcomes for children.The book is very timely.

Every Family Court Judge should read it and then truly make custody decisions for children in the best interests of children who have two loving and fit parents available on an equal basis.MJM



























Review In the news UK

Thursday, 05, Nov 2009 08:48

Published by Piatkus Books, out now, paperback, 208pp, £12.99.

In a nutshell...

Parents need to learn to say ‘no’

What's it all about?

Many households in today’s society have two parents at work. This decade has seen the highest proportion of single households in Britain. The knock-on effect is children are often left to fend for themselves, with time-poor parents struggling to attend to their needs. Kids are therefore increasingly turning to TV and their own peer groups to satisfy their needs.

Dr Aric Sigman believes that a growing lack of adult authority has led to a 'spoilt generation' of children who believe grown-ups must earn their respect. Spanning the class divide it leads to problems ranging from obesity to teenage pregnancy, he explains. The lack of discipline in classrooms is well-documented, due to children of this generation becoming used to having their demands met by people in authority. The solution? For adults to get tough and assert their authority again, without question.

Who's it by?

In his press biography Dr Sigman would like you to know that he leads by example. He cooks from scratch seven days a week, does the washing up by hand and walks his children to school. Such forthright views on parenting are popular enough to have made him a fixture on daytime television and radio.

He does however have the academic credentials to back this up. A Fellow of the Royal Society of Medicine and an Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society, he writes a Brain and Behaviour column for the Times Educational Supplement.

As an example...

Dr Sigman is not afraid to stoke the fires of debate by taking a stance. His manifesto is as follows:

"Children of the spoilt generation are used to having their demands met by their parents and others in authority, and that in turn makes them unprepared for the realities of adult life.

"There is now an urgent moral and legal imperative incumbent upon legislators to help restore authority to children's lives. Adults must be legally empowered to deal with both their own and other people's children without the fear that they may be confronted or prosecuted for doing so."

Likelihood of becoming a Hollywood blockbuster

As a non-fiction manual for parenting there is little here to inspire the dreamers of Hollywood. Spend twenty seconds Googling the title however and you will find it has received enormous coverage from some unusual sources. One minute it is being discussed by the BBC, the next it is being championed by splinter pressure group Real Fathers 4 Justice.

What the others say

Reviews have been in the main positive, congratulating him for his boldness of vision. I think he's hit the nail on the head," is the praise from Dr Miriam Stoppard writing in the Daily Mirror. Jane Alexander of the Telegraph also praises his directness, commenting "Dr Aric Sigman doesn't pull his punches".

So is it any good?

Last month a 15-year-old boy made headlines across Britain after being suspended for refusing to stand when the headmaster entered the room. Rather than remonstrate with his son the father fully supported him, saying that the new headmaster "had yet to earn his respect".

It is this example of child parenting which bothers Dr Aric Sigman and which he tackles in The Spoilt Generation. In first chapter Little Emperors: Their Rise To The Throne, Dr Sigman believes the way we parent used to be intuitive but has now become the subject of political fashion. The result? A generation of children spoiled far beyond materialism.

It takes Sigman precious little time to get stuck into the solutions. He deplores the reluctance of adults to exert authority, and reintroduces the concept of saying "no" and facing the unpleasantness that goes with it.

So far, so obvious perhaps. Yet his views range into areas which may make some uncomfortable. As part of the drive for authority, Dr Sigman is open to the idea of smacking in the context of a loving family. He also believes that ADHD is often diagnosed wrongly in children who simply have been brought up badly.

As a work guaranteed to ruffle feathers the book has helped Dr Sigman rapidly move from fame to notoriety. As a result it suffers slightly from being more of a manifesto than an analysis. However The Spoilt Generation is refreshing for its unashamed promotion of old-fashioned parenting.

8/10

Marcus Dubois

http://www.inthenews.co.uk/reviews/books/non-fiction/the-spoilt-generation-by-dr-aric-sigman-$1338851.htm

In the UK ~ Fathers 4 Justice in city centre protest

9:33am Wednesday 4th November 2009

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By Andrew Ffrench »

A campaigner for father’s rights has attempted to scale the roof of Oxford Magistrates’ Court.
Roger Crawford, 60, a member of Fathers 4 Justice launched a protest this morning.
Mr Crawford, from Meppershall, in Bedfordshire, was dressed as superman as he attempted to climb the building in St Aldate’s earlier this morning, before being caught by security staff.
It is believed the campaigners have now taken their protest to the street outside.

philg, Oxford says...
2:44pm Wed 4 Nov 09

I thought the crown court was in St Aldate's, and the Magistrates' court in Speedwell Street. The campaigners I saw were certainly outside the Crown Court.

Get the facts straight

I thought the crown court was in St Aldate's, and the Magistrates' court in Speedwell Street. The campaigners I saw were certainly outside the Crown Court. Get the facts straight

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Mike Murphy, Sault Ste. Marie, ON, Canada says...
5:30am today Thu 5 Nov 09

Roger well done. Its good to see a man closer to my age still spry enough to try and get on roofs as well as have the passion and love for children you do.

Its always a good day when we draw attention to the dysfunction of family courts no matter what court house it is.

http://www.oxfordmail.co.uk/news/headlines/4718843.Fathers_4_Justice_in_city_centre_protest/