I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Monday, October 9, 2006

Chapter 32 ~ A dishonouring letter from my ex's Lawyer

This is an excerpt of a letter from my ex's lawyer, Romuald Kwolak, dishonouring a verbal agreement to give me wider access to my children stated before Justice Gladys Pardu at a Case Conference on September 1, 2006. Rather than commence it in September as agreed he says it will be reviewed after October 10, 2006. Talk about putting the "screws" to someone. That is my 60th birthday. My wife hasn't produced the children for interview by the Children's Lawyer and it is just another stalling tactic so she doesn't lose control any sooner than she has to.

With respect to the issue of access, we are suggesting that:
l. Supervised access continue at the present time. Any other access should wait until we get some direction from the Office of the Children's Lawyer. I understand that he will viewing supervised access on September 17, 2006. Hopefully, we would get some direction from Mr. Zuliani, from the Office of the Children's Lawyer, as to how to proceed by the end of October. Access would be reviewed, in any event, after October 10th.

Pretty duplicitous by any standard! The interesting thing is he will eventually write me letters wondering why there is so much animosity. One such letter will say he is downright unhappy about how I refer to his client with such descriptive terms. Does this guy think memories are erased after the month end in the same manner his client erased financial records at the business.


Anonymous said...

Hi There;

I am just wondering if the M. Zuliani you refer to is Mike Zuliani of Wawa, Ontario?

The reason I ask this is because we have just wrapped up a trial in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario and Mike Zuliani is the clinical investigator who was assigned by the OCL.

Under cross examination, Mike Zuliani admitted that he only questioned my children at my ex's home and not when he did an observational visit with my fiance and I this past April.

He also admitted that he did not look at any evidence that my side provided him such as videos of my kids and I having fun, etc. and even school and health records that show that my ex does not discipline the kids.

He also admitted that he did not contact the principals from my kids' former and present schools.

We had the principals as witnesses for our side and at the least the one from their former school said that I would go by and inquire how my kids were doing at school and I was always polite and concerned about how my kids would behave but, on the other hand, my ex would only come when called if my kids had a behavior issue at school.

Basically speaking, my lawyer nailed him on the stand and basically proved that Mike Zuliani did not look at everything he should have before making his determination.

This would include the Supervised Access Facility notes where my son says "Mom doesn't want us to." when my kids were asked why they did not want to go in to see me.

Something needs to be done about this guy.

If he did this to my kids and I, how many others in the past has he done this too resulting in innocent children paying the price for his laziness?

Thank you.

Michael J. Murphy said...

Yes it was the same person. Zuliani was aware my children were being alienated from me by the ex, based on his interviews with them at the family home.

I had made him aware of the alienation before hand but he declined to call it that in his report. This brainwashing had started prior to the ex leaving.

The report was done long before the custody trial but the judge insisted on using it to offer custody to my ex, but ignored the alienation.

The courts use social context and sexist gender "politics", which usually means the mom will get sole physical custody because her income may be less than the dad.

I was the stay-at-home parent prior to her taking off with the kids but that meant nothing to the court.

Anonymous said...

I apologize that I have not responded to you sooner.

If you don't mind, may I ask who your lawyer was/is and who the trial judge was? Also, would you mind telling me if you were granted fair and regular, unsupervised, overnight access?

In any event, please feel free to share all of my comments with everyone you wish including on the internet so that this is made widely public as they need to know.

Also, Mike Zuliani is going to be sorry when I look into suing him, the OCL and anyone else who we're involved with him.

In addition, if you would like, we could urge as many people we can that went through this under this guy to come forward with us so that we may protest on the front steps of the OCL and maybe the SSM courthouse. If the media can cover it, all the better.

Just a thought for you to consider.

Take care.

https://www.facebook.com/parents4justice said...

Hi There;

Here's a link to my Facebook page, Parents 4 Justice at

It tells my story and was made so that change to the system may be forced so that the lawyers etc. who are using our children to drag out cases and "legally extort" money will be stopped.

It was also made to fight for the rights of the non custodial parent who may be unfairly treated all because their ex wants to spite them and use the children as weapons.

People. Let's fight.

Let's not go away until change is forced and any parent who uses their children and the court system to hurt the other parent be punished under the full extent of the law for lying, breach of court orders etc.

Let's see the lawyers and any other corrupt official be exposed and also handled to the full extent of the law.