I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Friday, September 5, 2008

New Blog for local Chapter of Fathers-4-Justice Canada

We are in the beginning stages of starting a new Chapter of Fathers-4-Justice Canada in Sault Ste. Marie, ON. It has stirred controversy in a meaningful way with a segment of the population in what I describe as misanderfems (a new word I invented this morning to avoid insulting true feminists who want what we want - true equality). Some call them other terms such as femi-nazis, which I would do over a Guinness at the local pub while male bonding, but on the blog I want to keep it as civil as possible. To give you a flavour of the hatred I am including some of the comments below. The start of them is in connection with catching them hacking a poll I have on the home page.

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

I don't give a shit. Go ahead and report me to Interpol, NATO, or whoever the fuck it is you think gives a shit about mass voting on a website for butthurt dads. I eagerly anticipate the paragraph warning that whatever ISP representative will copy-paste into an e-mail I get and never open. Cheers, mate.

Michael J. Murphy said...

This is the level of intelligence that victimizes men and can get away with it. Pity isn't it! :)

Anonymous said...

I hate men!

Anonymous said...

Yeah, down with men! I hate men SO much that not only am I going to deny them the right of parenthood, I'm also going to delete my cookies and vote on this random website over 2000 times. Heh. That's the power of WOMEN.

Michael J. Murphy said...

Tsk. Tsk. now girls - off too bed with you. Enough mischief for one day. Don't you think!!!!! :)

Anonymous said...

I think NATO is busy with a resurgent Russia right now. Sorry, I am off to conduct recon missions over Russia in my refurbished XB-70.

Steven said...

You know, I find all this ironic considering that F4J also has many women members who are proud to support equal parenting. And, as a male F4J member, I'd hate to say this, but after doing some research, I must declare myself a feminist. Feminism: n. 1. Belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. 2. The movement organized around this belief. So, all you women who are true "Feminists", please contact your local F4J co-ordinator for more information about how you too can help support equal parenting rights for our children.

Anonymous said...

Sweet, I'm "hacker 1", dudebitches!

Anonymous said...

Gotta go to McDonald's because I have a mean hack att... I mean Big Mac attack.

Anonymous said...

Remember when the computing elite underground decided to extend the definition of hacking to include "mass voting on some gay poll"? Wait, shit, I must be off in space on fucking LSD, because you'd have to be functionally retarded to make the connection between compromising system security and producing dissenting votes on a blog poll. Those ISPs will be a-roarin' to kick some ass when they get a load of people voting on polls. I'll totally be blacklisted and never get Internet service in this town again. Good work, sheriff Internet Dad!

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Steven said...

Please stop disrupting our communications. Disrupting communications on this channel with spam will not be tolerated. Cyber bullying will not be tolerated. I will personally make certain that hate crimes will be dealt with to the fullest extent of the law and that those responsible, will be held responsible. You're not dealing with noobs any more. SP

Anonymous said...

So we have the Hague in on this now? Anyways, I stand by my opinion that dads should not be allowed to have custody of their children.

Anonymous said...

I'm not dealing with "noobs", is it? I'd like to step back from sarcastic remarks and at least offer you the charitable motion of a recount on what all has gone down here on the F4J blog - a bunch of votes were made en masse. Now, if you can find a way to qualify mass voting on a blog as a hate crime, you should probably be exploiting your quixotic litigation abilities in more substantial areas than defending the plight of some miserable old men whining on the Internet. Seriously, if you want to fight a war against "hate crimes", maybe quit the laughable Internet tough guy act and start with the misogynistic crowd that run this website and are so blind to reality that they can't even entertain the notion that this voting was done by anybody other than women who want nothing more than to blissfully abuse their ex-husbands by forcing them into hopeless exile from their children. People this high-strung are, at best, potential timebombs. Second, any remarks I have made on this blog are limited to mocking even the absurd concept of there being any trouble over the multitude of votes on this blog. Third, if in Neverland, you were to embark on a magical quest and successfully found a way to somehow convince somebody to waste our tax money and public services into looking into thse imaginary hate crimes (and honestly, they are completely imaginary - where are they? What are you even talking about?), I have absolutely no doubt that with even my dog representing me, I would have little trouble passing any of this off as the clear parody it all is, or having any case dismissed outright on the sheer absurdity of trying to litigate me on such idiotic grounds.

Michael J. Murphy said...

G'night Hacker 3 - Get some sleep the blog will be here tomorrow for you to rant on about. Love ya babe!!!!! :)

Anonymous said...

Well, he own hatred of mothers is shining through! He it it immediately jumped aboard the mother-hating bandwaggon upon recieving the tiniest dose of criticism - which, I might add, is allowed under the charter.

Anonymous said...

Shift change! Hacker 2 signing in for own graveyard shift. Me hate men, etc.

Anonymous said...

Figured I'd just drop by and leave a few words, more or less so you can continue to cackle and salivate over some new meaningless logs of my visits here. Cheers~! Also, thought I'd remind everybody that my IP address is 24.109.38.7, if the dossier on my connections desparately posted all over this blog had slipped your mind or something. Oh yeah, almost forgot - down with men, my chromosomes are superior, generic demoralizing statements, etc.

Michael J. Murphy said...

Steve: The definition of feminisim has gotten lost in the haze over the years but you are right. it is incumbent to use a new term rather than slight true feminists. They, after all, want what we want. On the Soo News forum one poster calls them femi-nazis. It has a ring that resonates and gets attention but may be a little extreme in our blog where we want civil discourse rather than hatred and invective. The term though works well over a pint of Guinness at the pub when conversing and doing cool stuff like male bonding. I need to do more of that. They are misandrists or suffer from misandry so I'm inventing a new word today You've seen it for the first time ever right here - right now. It is a combination of Misandry and Female. Misandry means simply "Hatred of men" and we know what female means. I will leave feminist out completely as it is insulting to them to have our hacker visitors referred in that manner. This is not meant as a slight to females. I adore women and having been a stay-at-home dad for 10 years. I identify strongly with them. Where would the world be without you helping to keep us in line. I do have a "beef" with my ex but that is another story. The new word is misanderfem. Its definition is "a female who hates men so much they will do anything including lying, cheating, stealing, psychologically damage children, and when necessary beat up on males to suit their agenda." This is an "open source" definition so others can make contributions. This is not a complimentary term by any stretch but it describes them better than feminist which is a touch too complimentary. Have a lovely day. :) note: slightly modified from the original which I deleted but consistent with the one posted on the Soo News forum this AM.

The following have been general comments on the blog and on the Soo News Forum where the posters originally saw reference to the blog and the new chapter.
Anonymous Anonymous #1 said...
What a disgusting idea. I hope rights for fathers are further stripped away - this sick effort is going to do nothing but spur a movement of child molesting fathers and allow resentful dads to employ the law to forcefully abduct the kids they have no right to be near. Do you want dads out there diddling their kids? I didn't think so.
September 2, 2008 2:07 AM
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Anonymous Anonymous # 2 said...
I don't think men should really have any time with their kids unsupervised.
September 2, 2008 2:11 AM
Anonymous Anonymous #3 said...
nice analysis. looks like somebody else learned psychology on a random geocities website! ~!~You Go Bro~~1 :)
September 3, 2008 4:23 PM
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Anonymous Anonymous # 4 said...
Courts are put in place to protect Canadian citizens, especially children. It is with good reason that the Canadian legal system keeps fathers away from their children: Men are inherantly (sic) violent and irresponsible people. You can moan and complain about them being"biased" all you want, but the system will not change since they REALIZE childrens' saftey (sic) is at stake! While I do not agree with "shared parenthood", I do agree that men should get 2 or 3 supervised hours of visitation with their children every week.
September 3, 2008 5:07 PM
Blogger Michael J. Murphy said...
to Anonymous #1
You appear to be pathologically impacted by some traumatic event. You have my sympathy for having such a distorted view of the world and men. I also sympathize with your children as they will obviously have relationship problems with men given the strength of your unhealthy views. I believe, as I do for my ex, you need serious counselling. Get some for the sake of your children.
September 2, 2008 8:26 AM
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Blogger Michael J. Murphy said...
To anonymous # 2 You indicate "men" should not have access to children unless it is supervised. Do you really believe that all men should be grouped in such a negative light because of your experiences. What ever happened to the notion that men and women were equal. That is misandry which is not unlike saying all people of one race are bad because of one person. I do sympathize if you have had bad experiences with a man or some men. We are not all that bad. We are, like you, less than perfect but most men do love their children and want to do the best they can for them. I am writing a book on my experiences and will include these comments in it. If you want to see the prologue to the book visit here: http://parentalalienationcanada.blogspot.com.
September 2, 2008 8:56 AM
Blogger Michael J. Murphy said...
To anonymous #3 your quote ---> "nice analysis. looks like somebody else learned psychology on a random geocities website! ~!~You Go Bro~~1 :)" Yours is an interesting comment in that you are likely a woman using rap talk. Intriguing. I hope you have had a thorough look at the site and this is what I had hoped people would do. Creating a dialogue is the first step toward a reasoned approach to important decisions. Glad you could spend this much time here.
September 3, 2008 9:48 PM
Blogger Michael J. Murphy said... to anonymous #4
Thank you for your observation. I will respectfully disagree with you. To cast all men with a broad brush such as you have would be called racist if you applied it to a visible minority. Surely some, indeed most of us, are not this way with our children? But your comments make our case. The definition of bias is A) preference or an inclination, especially one that inhibits impartial judgment. B) An unfair act or policy stemming from prejudice
September 3, 2008 5:56 PM This comment is in response to my observation that the voting was being hacked and I would report it to their ISP's. This individual also commented above. Do you think they are a little miffed they got caught? hmmm....you be the judge.
Anonymous Anonymous #4 said... (same as above)
I don't give a shit. Go ahead and report me to Interpol, NATO, or whoever the fuck it is you think gives a shit about mass voting on a website for butthurt (sic) dads. I eagerly anticipate the paragraph warning that whatever ISP representative will copy-paste into an e-mail I get and never open. Cheers, mate.
September 3, 2008 11:43 PM
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Blogger Michael J. Murphy said...Well # 4
This is the level of intelligence that victimizes men and can get away with it. Pity isn't it! :)
September 3, 2008 11:47 PM
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Blogger Michael J. Murphy said...
This is a general note to dispel fears that someone, male or female, who is a provable danger to children would then be dealt with through the court process and, if warranted, would have no access or supervised access given the circumstances. Keep in mind this applies to either parent not just men. In my case my ex was the only parent to both physically and psychologically abuse the children. The family court gave the "hen house" to the "fox". Fathers-4-Justice Canada believes there should be a "presumption" of equality for shared parenting" but in no manner would assume someone who could be a danger gets it carte blanche. The following is a quote from an online petition at: "http://www.petitiononline.com/rpesp2ca/petition.html. If you haven't signed this petition do it now before you forget.
"WHEREAS the vast majority of the public supports legislation which requires a presumption of equal shared parenting arrangements of children after divorce for those parents with no proven criminal abuse towards their children, and the Federal Special Joint Committee on Child Custody and Access supported equal shared parenting in its 1998 Report titled – ‘For The Sake Of The Children’,"
September 2, 2008 9:16 AM
Keep the comments coming. It is healthy and who knows, perhaps those of you who see our goal as not in keeping with your own views may come to see it has advantages to reduce the overall enmity and, god forbid, the cash that goes into a lawyer's pocket, out of the pockets of our children's future legacy, that comes from a family break up. If your spouse is a provable danger to your children then a presumption of equality is not appropriate but that would be dealt with by the individuals involved through the court process without impacting the general rule of equality..
Posted from the Sault News forum with the permission of the poster who's ID is Longing:
Member Posts: 6
« Reply #1 on: Today at 01:51:30 PM »

Congratulations to you! I am so very happy to see such an organization started in our community, God knows we need it, not just here but throughout Canada! I was honestly shocked and disappointed when I went to your website and read the comments that were posted by annonymous 1 and 2. I have to wonder if I know exactly who those people are. It is a very unfortunate world that we are living in when a woman can take the father of her children to court and waste thousands of dollars that SHOULD be going towards the cost of raising children or could easily provide these children with a fantastic education. But rather "women" are using an unfair family court system to hurt and humiliate the fathers of thier children! And not only are they using the system to thier own revenge, but they are teaching our children the art of manipulation as well! I have dealt with this system for many years, not with children of my own, but instead as the stepmother who has had to watch as her husbands heart was ripped out and stomped everytime the first wife got a new boyfriend or felt that her children preferred their fathers affection over her own. I could never understand why a person would put her own children through so much hell, I could never understand how anyone could harbour so much hate within her heart and live a happy life. But I have seen the after effect, and I have witnessed what happens to these children that are raised to believe their father is a horrible person and the way these children learn to use the law to punish those whom they are angry with. I sit here everyday feeling as though my stepchildren have been abducted and are still missing, rather than face the fact that they finally found a way into the heart of their mother through lies and manipulation against their father. I try to remind myself that even through all of the fighting and court I still have very good memories of the first years I had with those children. But I cant happen but wonder, if the family court system was different, if only fathers had equal rights and PAS was a punishable offense, would I still have those children to love? The following is my response on the Sault News Forum.
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Member Posts: 2
« Reply #2 on: Today at 03:07:26 PM »

Longing: Your description of Parental Alienation is classic. No one will ever know what it is like until they have walked in our shoes. It is the most heart wrenching emotional pain to have your children, in my case those I raised from infancy, emotionally kidnapped from you and to see them hurl epithets drawn from the alienating parent's own twisted view of her ex. It is tragic psychological abuse that has been condoned, or in the case of the Children's Aid Society, out of their jurisdiction. They can deal with a bruise to the arm because it can be seen. That bruise will be gone within a week but perhaps not the underlying trauma. They cannot deal with a child's bruised psyche which could last a lifetime and there is no other organization in the Soo, or many other places, that can deal with it at all. Lawyer's don't give a darn about the children only that they get paid for their services by the hurtful parent. The impact of this abuse on the target is hard to believe. The affected parent goes through a grieving process everyday but unlike a death where it diminishes over time this never lessens in intensity. Your children are out there but lost to you emotionally. Could I use your comments on the blog posted as anonymous? Thank you for posting. Mike Murphy

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