I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Friday, October 31, 2008

Is Dear Abbey going to talk about Parental Alienation ~ Yes on November 3/08

The following is a note from the http://crispe.org/blog/ Posted on by Semper Fi The Dear Abbey of November 3/08 follows.

Children’s Rights Initiative for Sharing Parents Equally

DR. PHIL AND PARENTAL ALIENATION. Dr Phil wants you! 1. DR. PHIL. The Dr. Phil show called CRC. They are seeking a husband and wife, or separated husband and wife, engaged in a custody battle, involving such things as denial of access (visitation) or parental alienation. Both the mother and father would have to agree to appear on the Dr. Phil Show. If you know of any such couples, please get word to CRC asap.

2. PARENTAL ALIENATION. For the first time, we have a definite date from the Dear Abby column as to when the article on parental alienation will appear. It is Monday, November 3. Dear Abby will respond to a person who asks about parental alienation, by criticizing the practice, and by referring her readers in 1,400 newspapers to the Children’s Rights Council, and our website. Some of you may get calls from readers. Between now and Nov. 3 you may wish to contact the local newspaper that carries Dear Abby or other media and offer your own comments or possible interviews with victims of parental alienation.

If you can be on the show please e-mail: crc_sandiego@yahoo.com

November 3/08

today's Dear Abby

MAN PESTERED BY EX-WIFE MUST ACT TO HELP HIS SON

DEAR ABBY: Parental alienation is a topic I have never seen addressed in your column. It is a problem with many divorces involving children. I think my brother is a victim of it. He lives in a different state than his little boy, but pays child support.

Abby, his ex continuously harasses him via text messaging and late-night phone calls, accusing him of things she thinks happened when they were together. You'd think she hasn't moved on, but she has a new husband!

She agreed that my brother could call his son twice a week, but she rarely answers the phone during these scheduled "visits." She is now trying harder to keep my brother out of his son's life. She even told my nephew that the presents my brother sent him for Christmas came from her new husband!

My brother can't afford a lawyer right now, but he is moving to Florida in the near future and I would like to help him resolve this issue. What are your thoughts on parental alienation? -- FRUSTRATED SIS IN FLORIDA

DEAR FRUSTRATED SIS: The kind of anger, selfishness and vindictiveness you have described are unhealthy for everyone involved. Obviously, your former sister-in-law has not moved on. She's still stuck in trying to retaliate against your brother. She's expending the energy and attention she should be devoting to her new marriage and new husband to punishing her last one.

And as for your nephew, when a child grows up believing his father thought he was unimportant and expendable, it can negatively affect his sense of self-worth.

There is an effective resource available to your brother -- the Children's Rights Council (CRC). For many years this organization has worked to prevent children from being victimized by their parents' divorces, something which happens all too often. The CRC has 57 chapters in 37 states, and its Web site is www.crckids.org. Its president, David L. Levy, J.D., is a nationally known expert on children and edited "The Best Parent Is Both Parents" (Hampton Roads Publishing). Please advise your brother to contact this group.

2 comments:

Alienated mom said...

I think it is wonderful that Dr. Phil is having another show about parental alienation. There needs to be more public awareness of this atrocious act that is occurring where children are being encouraged to choose one parent over the other. Parenting time is being taken away by the alienating parent and the courts do not impose any sort of punishment and expect the two parents to work it out. When there is severe alienation occurring, the alienator does not fear the orders of the court or any reprisal from their actions, mainly because they know there is no penalty for violating the court orders.

Although Dr. Phil would like to have both parents appear on his show, I believe that in cases where the alienation is severe, that request is next to impossible. Narcissists do not believe there is a problem and they most certainly are not going to appear on a national television show with a shrink and risk being made fun of. Alienators are manipulative, cunning and deceitful. I believe that request is a disaster waiting to happen. I believe that having both appear when there is severe alienation will only cause more damage. I had court ordered counseling and my ex refused to attend. What would make me think that he would appear on television for a show about parental alienation?

Michael J. Murphy said...

Alienated Mom:

Dr. Phil could turn into the Jerry Springer Show if both parties turned up in an alienation custody case. It is so emotional. I would certainly like to see my ex go on with me but it will never happen.

Like you my ex wouldn't entertain any form of counselling and when she had to agree to get the children some professional help via court order only one session ever took place. Even though she is the custodial parent she then said I would be responsible all the while not encouraging the children to go and probably discouraging them.

Hopefully Dr. Phil will have another show. His first one on PA was quite good shortly after Alec Baldwin's book came out and we'll see what happens with Dear Abbey very soon.