I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Fathers 4 Justice Canada endorses Conservative Party.

1-888-F4J Canada Press release Contact: Kris Titus Phone: 1-888-345-2262 ext. 704 FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE October 12, 2008 Fathers 4 Justice Canada endorses Conservative Party. At the conclusion of their own lively election campaign, which included high level non violent direct actions on Jack Layton's roof and other locations, and trading cards that brandish party leaders as villains like the Riddler and the Joker and Heros like the Green Lantern and Superman, Fathers 4 Justice Canada will be endorsing the Conservative Party in this election as pro equal parenting. The group has been attending town hall meetings and contacting candidates and keeping score with report cards. If you would like to see where individual candidates stand visit: http://www.fathers-4-justice-canada.ca/content.asp?DocId=16 "There is no question the Conservative Party has historically taken the strongest stand for equal parenting rights. We will give them one more chance to finish what many Conservative party members have tried to start," says Kris Titus, National Coordinator for Fathers 4 Justice Canada."There are some fathers rights groups who have lost hope, but we're not one of them." The group points to the historical strong support for equal parenting rights from members like Jay Hill and Maurice Vellacott, whose Private Member Motion PMM-483 garnered 14 Conservative seconders and many other supporters across party lines. "We have assurances that PMM483 will be reborn in some fashion and equal parenting WILL be part of the political agenda when Parliament resumes. We have covered the alphabet from A-Z and there are some wonderful candidates willing to stand for the rights of children and parents after separation and divorce." The group has also listed approximately 60 individual candidates who have shown strong support for equal parenting rights. "Just because the election will soon be over does not mean our work ends. On the contrary, we're just beginning to show the country what Fathers 4 Justice Canada can do. We will be on constant Politician Watch to determine where elected officials stand on equal parenting and hold them accountable." Stephen Harper must now prove to Canadian parents he really is one of them. Contact Info F4J Canada Kris Titus National Coordinator Tel: (888) 345-2262 ext. 704 officefathers4justicecanada@gmail.com For more information go to: www.f4jcanada.ca National Action website: www.f4jcanada.com -End This message was sent from Kris Titus to mjmurphy@nospam.com. It was sent from: F4J Fathers 4 Justice Canada, 202-812 12th Street, New Westminster, British Columbia V3M 4K1, Canada. You can modify/update your subscription via the link below.

Tennessee Domestic Abuse Coalition denies Parental Alienation exists

The following, for some strange reason, was posted on the AOL money page. Go figure as it has nothing to do with money, other than the organization(s) who wrote the misinformation and propaganda in it get lots of it from taxpayers to print and disseminate the kind of unfounded and gross misrepresentation contained within its paragraphs. A lot of the feminists are running scared these days as more and more solid information is made available on the very real damage caused by Parental Alienation, and it seems there may be a probability this behaviour is undertaken by some of the same people sending out this propaganda. Why would they be in denial of its existence other than to cover it up. Isn't it so often the case the loudest critics are often the very same people conducting or performing the behaviour. How many of these righteous bible thumping preachers have been found out doing the very thing they flail against in their holier than thou pulpits. They, like many others of their kind, purport to be anti-domestic violence yet they will freely admit that Parental Alienation is not abusive to children or the target parent, whether that be a man or women. What I haven't been able to get out of any feminists so far is whether it is still bogus if the target is a women and the abuse is conducted by the father. (see court case below) I'm still waiting and I don't even moderate comments on my site! Those of us who are targets can clearly say from experience it is real, it is abusive and the feminist ideology is clearly wrong. What do they have to say about the recent case of two lesbians in Montana who had a custody dispute where the biological mother did everything to alienate the child from the "social" mother - even married a man afterward. Now that is a hoot - but it isn't funny because of the manipulation of people that occurs. Not long ago here in Ontario there was a case of the father who poisoned his son against the mother. She won custody and the 13 year old boy was ordered to attend Dr. Warshaks Family Workshop in Texas. These are quotes from the court proceedings. A 13-year-old Ontario boy whose domineering father systematically brainwashed him into hating his mother can be flown against his will to a U.S. facility that deprograms children who suffer from parental alienation, an Ontario Superior Court judge has ruled.

Mr. Justice James Turnbull ordered the boy – identified only as LS – into the custody of his mother. He said that the boy urgently needs professional intervention to reverse the father's attempt to poison his mind toward his mother and, in all probability, to women in general.

“There will probably be future significant problems experienced by LS if the court does not intervene – including significant personal guilt for his part in the rejection of his mother, anger towards women, and dysfunctional relationships with women,” Judge Turnbull said.

The judge flatly refused to take the boy's opinion on the therapy into account, saying that LS cannot exercise “free discretion in expressing his views” because of the influence his father has had on him.

Judge Turnbull observed that the father, 54, has repeatedly breached court orders granting the mother limited access to her son. He said that the boy has come to perceive himself and his father as “intertwined and unable to distinguish one's thoughts from the other.” (ed note: this can be called a "folie à deux" - mjm)

As part of his campaign of absolute control over LS, the father dictated toxic e-mails for the boy to send to his mother. He also removed photographs of the mother from her son's bedroom.

Judge Turnbull also noted that in 2005, the father pursued an assault charge against the mother. As a result, LS, at the age of 10, was required to testify against her in criminal court.

“Frankly, the exercise of such parental indiscretion stuns this court,” Judge Turnbull said, adding that the mother was acquitted.

Jeffery Wilson, the mother's lawyer, said Thursday that the case is a breakthrough for parents attempting to win back children who have been intentionally alienated from them.

"This is a precedent in Canada - the first time a Canadian court has recognized the lack of resources to deal with the disease of parental alienation and answered it with a private remedy - the Family Workshop for Alienated Children," Mr. Wilson said.

Dr. Warshak is a professional Psychologist, and clinical professor at the University of Texas, SW Medical Centre. His recent book "Divorce Poison" is considered a breakthrough book in clearly explaining PA and offers suggestions to the target parent and extended family - who are also victims - on how to deal with it. All DV organizations who write the tripe found in the press release below would do well to read it. Do the feminists not understand the APA has not officially stated that PAS (the feminists get hung up on the term syndrome a lot) is or is not a mental health disorder and may review it for inclusion in the next iteration of the DSM in 2010 or beyond. But even if it does not get included at that time there is no excuse for the abusive poisoning of a child's mind by one parent towards another and the concomitant unrelenting psychic bruising that can be life long in nature. One can see a physical bruise and see the evidence of abuse right away but emotional bruising may manifest itself later in behaviour that is destructive. If I get slapped in the face it still is an assault whether the person doing it is mentally ill or not. It doesn't have to be called slap in the face syndrome for it to be abusive. These feminist organizations have to get their heads out of the sand to see more clearly what it is they are defending or denying. They are enabling abuse by denying it exists. How often throughout history has a dogma distorted the truth. Think of Galileo who was branded a heretic by the religious zealots of the day for thinking the earth wasn't the centre of the universe and everything revolved around it. We have our own modern day zealots blinded by gender wars and lots of tax supported funding to play with over bogus issues. I guess things must be taking a turn in some court cases for them to be this worried about it. Having been getting their own way with custody in over 90% of situations, be it court disputed or otherwise, they must be losing some and need to target an abusive behaviour not yet written into the DSM as somehow fake. How long did it take to get Tourette Syndrome (TS) and many others in. Some can take decades but doesn't make it any less real. When someone calls them to task, like me, they then haul out their standard responses, - he is misogynist, hateful, an abuser, and it just doesn't help their credibility at all. Those of us who are targets have the knowledge of moral and experiential certainty that PA exists and can speak to it with great credibility. Those that would deny its existence sing out of a feminist song book that is undeniably full of - gosh whats that word or phrase representing bovine additions to global warming, lets be kind and say it is a book of mythology, sadly outdated and in the extreme represents an egregious enabling of the very abuse they claim to want to eradicate. The American Psychological Association has stated "However, we have no official position on the purported syndrome.”

Highlighting the word “lack” and using the words “so-called” and “purported” in this press release seems to suggest the APA presumes PAS to be fallacious while, at the same time, uncommitted regarding its validity.

This official statement comes a few days after the APA’s Executive Director of Public and Member Communications, criticized Breaking the Silence for misrepresenting the APA’s position on PAS.

In spite of these puzzling pronouncements, it is apparent that the APA has, in fact, heretofore made a significant endorsement of the validity of PAS, which may be confirmed by simply searching the content of their website at www.apa.org.

The APA has well-known guidelines for child-custody evaluations in divorce proceedings. These are the guidelines the APA proposes examiners use when conducting such evaluations. The guidelines refer to three books of Dr. Gardner’s as “pertinent literature.” One book is completely devoted to the PAS and two make significant reference to the disorder:

  • Gardner, R.A. (1989), Family Evaluation in Child Custody Mediation, Arbitration, and Litigation. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics, Inc.

  • Gardner, R. A. (1992), The Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Guide for Mental Health and Legal Professionals. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics, Inc.

  • Gardner, R. A. (1992), True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics, Inc

So now we have one of many DV organizations misrepresenting the APA's statement, just as PBS did in the above TV show. Why? It suits their purpose even if it is a distortion. See the full text of the titled articledone for Glenn Sacks here. http://parentalalienationcanada.blogspot.com/2008/09/pas-and-apa-by-les-veskrna-md.html or click the link directly above. Now here is what is happening with your tax dollars. You support organizations like this one in Tennessee who are deliberately and with malice aforethought denying the existence of an abusive set of behaviours committed by both men and women that target and manipulate children to hate a parent. That is domestic abuse and violence on children and a partner no matter what gender the perp is.

Coalition Calls Attention to the Fake Courtroom Diagnosis of Parental Alienation Syndrome by Refuting Alec Baldwin's Book

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The Tennessee Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence (Coalition) has seen a growing trend in victims of domestic and sexual violence losing custody of their children to batterers due to a misperception called Parental Alienation Syndrome. This has gain heightened interest in the media due to the release of Alec Baldwin s book entitled, A Promise to Ourselves.
Parental Alienation Syndrome is not recognized by any professional association and has been rejected by the Presidential Task Force of the American Psychological Association and by the National Council of Juvenile & Family Court Judges.
Parental Alienation Syndrome is a claim that has been used to suggest that some parents try to undermine their children s relationship with the other parent, typically the noncustodial parent, by making false statements about that other parent, most often in the form of abuse allegations. In fact, actor Alec Baldwin made that claim about his own child custody case in a recent interview with Diane Sawyer.
The Tennessee Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence, along with the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) < http://www.nnedvfund.org/ >, the Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project (DV LEAP) < http://www.dvleap.org/ >, Stop Family Violence (SVP) < http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ > , and the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence < http://www.ncadv.org/ > , call on the media and the courts to rectify the misunderstanding and misuse of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in custody cases.
As part of a project entitled Mothers Organizing for Children s Justice , the Coalition recently conducted an anonymous survey and focus groups with survivors in Tennessee. In the Coalition s survey, 34% percent of the mothers who responded had been labeled as an alienator or with Parental Alienation Syndrome by a court related professional. Thirty percent of these women were advised by attorneys or other professionals involved in their case to not bring up issues of domestic violence, child physical abuse, or child sexual abuse, as it could negatively affect them and their children in the custody decision.
The fact that women in Tennessee are being advised to not bring up domestic violence or child abuse strongly suggests that Parental Alienation Syndrome is being used to silence women and children into submission and continued abuse, says Kathy Walsh, Executive Director of the Coalition.
ABOUT THE COALITION
Formed in 1983, the Tennessee Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence (Coalition) is a 501(c) (3) nonprofit organization composed of diverse community leaders and program members who share a common vision of ending violence in the lives of Tennesseans. For more information, visit: www.tcadsv.org .
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2008-10-02 09:40:00