I ask Bill Welychka, weatherman for the A-Channel, "Bill, why you, why did you start this, what's the genesis of your interest in the cause?"
Welychka, 41, single, muses briefly. "My parents," he says, "separated when I was in the fourth grade. My five brothers and sisters were older than me and no longer living at home. My mother was a teacher and she moved from Welland to Richmond Hill after the separation. She never got involved in another relationship, and so I was raised by a single mom.
"I don't believe my father had been physically abusive against her, but being the only child at home and brought up as I was by my mother, well there are certain qualities a woman can pass down that a man can't in the same way -- sensitivity, nurturing, compassion, tenderness. I have a lot of feminine sensibilities within me. I have empathy. Most of my friends have all been women."
That's all Bill Welychka is asking you to spend on Saturday Nov. 29 at Barrymore's. Fifteen bucks. You think nothing of forfeiting $15 to put gas in your vehicle, or buy a few beers at the pub, or buy lottery tickets, or buy a T-shirt. The $15 Bill Welychka's asking you to spend wallops to the sideline all of those, no contest -- the $15 he's asking you to spend will be the best $15 you've ever spent.
To borrow from Nike: Just Do It. Proceeds from Bill Welychka's Men Rocking For Women benefit concert will go to Ottawa's shelters for women who've been subjected to violence from men in their lives: Husbands, common-law husbands, partners, boyfriends; the problem such that the shelters are full, victims -- and children if they have any -- often having to be placed in hotels to await space.
"About 60% of women have, at some point in their lives, experienced at least one episode of physical abuse from a man," says Welychka who'll be emceeing the concert. "I know, myself, more than one woman who has. The shelters are so important. They are mostly privately funded and every cent they get is needed. I'm hoping there'll be at least 500 people at the concert. It starts at 8 p.m. and tickets will be sold at the door."
What you will get for your $15, besides the majestic knowledge that you are helping women who desperately need help, are performances by Alan Frew of Glass Tiger, plus the Ottawa rock bands Heroes Offer Her, Loudlove and Sojourn.
GOODS UP FOR AUCTION
Among the many items for the silent auction will be high-end electronics, gift baskets, Ottawa Senators tickets, Senators team-autographed T-shirts, and artist prints of the Sens. And weekend getaway packages from three hotels: The Chateau Laurier, Les Suites, Arc The Hotel.
There'll be star-talent CDs especially autographed for the concert, including from Anne Murray, Sarah Brightman, the band Coldplay and a DVD signed by the band ZZ Top.
Players from the women's Ottawa Roller Derby League will be there, and donating their own fundraising cheque. Several of the city's top radio and TV personalities will be on stage with quarterback Welychka.
"The more guys you get in the audience, males, seeing these other guys up there putting themselves out and waiving their fees, and when they hear guys explaining the importance of this cause, the more it can only help."
Although this project by Welychka is the first of its kind in Ottawa (and part of the White Ribbon Campaign of men joining in the war against violence towards women), it's not his first. When he was an editor in Toronto with TV's MuchMusic and MuchMoreMusic, he spearheaded successful White Ribbon fundraising campaigns in that city.
If YOU are a business and have something you'd like to donate to Men Rocking For Women, you can phone Welychka at 613-789-6559, ext. 2249, or Tina Mitani at 613-789-0606, ext. 2247.
Bill Welychka didn't have to do this Ottawa concert, no one is paying him, nor would he ask to be paid. He is not a professional concert promoter. It is arduous and time-consuming. He is doing it because he truly cares, he cares about the gender in our society who need the caring of all of us.
Fifteen bucks at the door.
Worth so much more.
Lindsay Lohan & Girlfriend 'Come to blows in London nightspot'--but don't call it 'Domestic Violence'November 24th, 2008 by Glenn Sacks
"According to Dr. Donald Dutton, author of Rethinking Domestic Violence, research shows that domestic violence is actually more common in lesbian relationships than in heterosexual relationships.
"For example, one study of 1,100 lesbian or bisexual women who are in abusive lesbian relationships found that the women were more likely to have experienced violence in their previous relationships with women than in their previous relationships with men."
First the story, then a few comments. From Lindsay Lohan And Sam Ronson Fight, Get Couples Counseling (Huffington Post, 11/21/08):
THE most talked-about twosome in Hollywood are talking with a couples counselor to resolve their escalating problems, an insider told Page Six.
Lindsay Lohan (above, in black) and Samantha Ronson (above, in red) "are fighting like cats and dogs," according to our source. "They fight every day, screaming, crying and yelling at each other.
"Sam and Lindsay are still very much together and very much in love, but drama just seems to follow Lindsay, and Sam hates it. She deals with Lindsay every day. And every day for Sam means questioning, 'Is this worth it?' "
Page Six spies saw Lohan and Ronson get into a spat outside of Citrine on West 21st Street recently, and the London Sun published details of a explosive argument this week outside Boujis in London, where Ronson was deejaying.
The paper reported "all hell broke loose" and the screaming match ended with Lohan "in tears."
The wild child sank down in tears following the 4am bust-up with DJ girlfriend Samantha Ronson.
It's not mentioned in the story's headline nor in its lead five paragraphs, but it turns out that what is portrayed as a lover's "spat" is actually a case of domestic violence. The story continues:
The pair had come to blows in a trendy London nightspot after Sam spotted Lindsay dancing with her ex Calum Best.
Witnesses say the DJ flew at the actress "throwing punches" on the dancefloor at Boujis...and playboy Calum, 27, had to tear them apart.
And as they were leaving the club Lindsay hit back at her lover "screaming and spitting" as the pair had to be pulled apart once again.
Another paper reported "Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson had their second major spat in a week."
The two lesbian lovers are abusing each other and "throwing punches" and the only man involved--Calum Best--is the one who breaks it up. Tell me, if Lohan was getting punched by her boyfriend as opposed to her girlfriend, would it be labeled a "fight"? Would it be seen as a cute lover's "spat"?
For another recent example of the media not calling lesbian domestic violence "domestic violence," see Wife Stabbed 222 Times by Spouse, but Media Doesn't Call It 'Domestic Violence' Because...