I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Saturday, January 3, 2009

A Review of: Save the Males: Why Men Matter, Why Women Should Care ~ Stephen Baskerville

If you don't know the background of Kathleen's relationship with her dad it is available in several locations including on one of my other blogs here. http://f4j-soo.blogspot.com/2008/09/what-is-father.html The book is inspiring for any dads out there feeling marginalized, especially if you have a daughter. It is prominent in my library. MJM

Men: The New Victim Group

By Stephen Baskerville

Human Events, vol. 64, no. 41 (November 24, 2008), p. 19.

A Review of: Save the Males: Why Men Matter, Why Women Should Care

Kathleen Parker

Random House

$26.00, 215pp.

“The last thing we need in America is yet another victim group,” writes columnist John Leo, “this one made up of seriously aggrieved males.” Yet he devotes the column to the dangers of male-bashing.

Men seldom complain about negative “stereotypes,” from fear of appearing petty. So Kathleen Parker has performed a valuable service in her fine book about the increasingly male-hostile culture created by extreme feminism. The relentless venom against males and masculinity – and its impact on women and girls – is presented in readable prose with vivid, often humorous anecdotes. In popular culture, men are portrayed as bumblers, deadbeats, pedophiles, rapists, and batterers. Even boys are deprecated beyond a joke, with feminist teachers declaring “I don’t like boys” and feminist curricula trying to make them girls, plus T-shirts urging that they be pelted with rocks.

The consequences reach beyond New Age Men in aprons and Lamaze classes. By far the most serious fallout is the systematic destruction of fatherhood – “patriarchy” in feminist jargon. Single motherhood is more than celebrated in the popular culture; it is enforced in the courts. Public ridicule may be sufficient for public figures like former Vice President Dan Quayle, who do not subscribe to the fashionable orthodoxy that children can be raised just fine without fathers, but handcuffs and jail cells are available for private men who refuse to accept that their own children are just fine without them.

Parker shows how families with fathers are more than a cultural ideal and social necessity: They also “keep government in its place.” She exposes repressive measures against “deadbeat dads,” including privacy and constitutional rights violations of “Americans accused of nothing,” and how this dishonest campaign is actually causing the problem it is supposed to be addressing.

While Parker’s emphasis is on culture, she transcends the trendy but superficial “he said/she said” approach and highlights government power: How easily “stereotypes” result in not merely unfairness but incarceration.

To appreciate why this book is more than the mirror image of feminist “whining” requires recognizing a fundamental distinction between unfairness and injustice. It may be unfair that a woman can decide to abort a child or not and that a man with no “choice” about the child he fathered must then pay child support. But (even aside from the immorality of abortion) it is not necessarily unjust, and it does not in itself threaten a free society. Criminalizing innocent fathers by seizing and holding their children through divorce laws that allow them to the “treated like criminals by family court,” leveling false charges of ill-defined “abuse,” confiscating their homes, gagging their voices, forcing them to confess to crimes they did not commit, demanding that they pay for it all under the guise of “child support” – and all this on pain of incarceration without trial – constitutes government repression. It threatens not only the families and social order but the privacy and freedom of us all.

Though sugar-coated on Oprah and Dr. Phil, what this book exposes are the consequences of a political ideology that, like most ideologies, promotes hate. Not only has this permeated every corner of our society and culture; its ideologues are now set to assume unprecedented political power. Save the Males offers an important contribution to understanding what we may expect.

Stephen Baskerville is associate professor of government at Patrick Henry College and author of Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family (Cumberland House, 2007).

A personal note from Stephen to all FRA's , Family and Supporters

Cumberland House Publishing is being sold, and unless action is taken soon, Taken Into Custody will go out of print. This is serious for two reasons: First copies will no longer be available. Second, if this book does not succeed, no other book on the abuses of family court and the divorce industry will be published for a very long time. Publishers make decisions based on what sells. If you want your own book published, please help with the success of this one. This is urgent, as it could go out of print in a matter of days. Two things must be done:

First, we need to sell as many copies as possible while the book is still in print. Now is the time to buy copies and urge others to do so. To order, go to the TIC page on Amazon here.

Second, if you have any media contacts, now is the time to use them. I need more radio and TV exposure to keep the book alive.

To assist you, Mike Seeber and Molly Olson have produced the following terrific 2-minute video, which is now up on YouTube. Please distribute this to your media contacts and local officials: Baskerville Speaks – Family Court Puts Profit Over People http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iA6_ZGa7jbc&feature=channel

TIC now has 54 5-star reviews on Amazon. Few books have comparable ratings.

All published reviews have been highly positive. (See the list of reviews and jacket quotations below.) Thanks for all your support and assistance in the past. And hang in there.

Stephen Baskerville, PhD Associate Professor of Government Patrick Henry College 1 Patrick Henry Circle Purcellville, Virginia 20132

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