I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Friday, October 9, 2009

"Don't Worry Now" ~ Britt Nicole singing about her father

I'm not overly religious, as is the singer, but I suggest you have a look at this video of the song "Don't Worry Now" from a very talented performer, Britt Nicole, about her daddy. If you are a dad estranged from your daughter this is from a child who saw her family disintegrate at the age of 7. This is an acoustic version with an interview to give some background on how she felt about the loss of her dad and his relegation to a visitor. See the second video for some powerful orchestration. This second video is fully orchestrated with lyrics. If you are a dad like me who loves his daughters deeply then make sure you have a tissue nearby. Its a powerful message from a child to her father.


jenny said...

Michael J Murphy is WRONG in his statement that the singer, Britt Nicole, is "overly religious." Obviously, he is entitled to his lame opinion. In fact, he is entitiled to it BY the God who gave us the freedom to choose for Him or against Him. And those are really the only choices. It seems awfully brazen to use this young lady's heartfelt and OBVIOUSLY inspired testimony to try to push your political agenda, Mr. Murphy, and in the same breath, to dismiss HER message, which is that only God (not our earthly father ----or mother----or brother----) can fill our hearts to the full. He is what we were made for. She is clearly doing what God made her for, although we all sin and fall short of His glory.

I agree that we do not recognize the impact of fatherlessness in our culture. I agree that the courts are often biased against fathers in divorce cases. But it would behoove us all to take heed of the fact that God has already pointed out the importance of a father....many, MANY times over. Go look up "fatherless" in the Bible and see what you find (if you aren't afraid of becoming "overly religious" by actually studying the Word.)

The courts aren't screwed up because they dismiss the impoortance of fahterhood----they are screwed up because they dismiss the importance of MARRIAGE. They act like they own it and ought to control it when marriage is actually owned by God. Without God, marriage is a joke and nothing more than a legal document. Don't expect so much emotion and care to be spent on such a thing if you dismiss God from it.

My Dad died when I was 9 years old---suddenly and with no goodbye, no warning,in the middle of a December night in Ohio. I know about father-loss. I have (surprize, surprize) been divorced once and my husband went (and still goes) through the anguish of being ejected from his sons' lives to a great degree BECAUSE OF THE CHOICES WE MADE.

It isn't ultimately about man-hating or woman-hating----it's about God-hating. If we love Him, we will follow His commands (including to stay married). That's what Jesus said, but then, I suppose you'd call HIM "overly religious." He had a lot to say about FORGIVENESS too, and that goes for ex-wives and ex-husbands----God knows, the kids are screaming for it! The least you can do is not be condescending toward this awesome singer's faith. It sure looks like the God who made her is blessing her ABUNDANTLY. And how about you?

He does bless us all, you know. I really do pray for His blessings on you also, Mr. Murphy. You have an important point to be made about the impact of the loss of fatherhood.....but you'll NEVER make it that way. God won't have it. He IS YOUR FATHER. Treat Him like one. "Overly religious?" I don't think so---and I KNOW who GAVE me the right to MY opinion.

Michael J. Murphy said...

You are one of the reasons why many of us fear the overly religious. You are blinded by myth and fairy tales. I am assuming you are a believer in the Christian God as opposed to Jewish or Muslim, or the myriad of other Gods out there but please don't preach. You just show you have no sensitivity to others who do not share those beliefs and are a sock puppet to a dogma based on Egyptian paganism.

I have met many like you and your incredible rigidity does not bode well in the raising of children. I suggest you seek therapy.

Anonymous said...

I love Britt Nicole and her heart after God. She is a better role modol that most worldly arists

Anonymous said...

Jesus loves you Mr. Murphy and I pray that God will soften your heart and reveal the truth to you that Jesus is Lord! Do you know where you are going after you die? Hell is a 100% real place just like Heaven is; it's up to you where you go. Romans 14:11 says "It is written: ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,‘every knee will bow before me;every tongue will acknowledge God.’” I pray that you will give your life to God before it is too late... "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us."-Romans 5:8

Anonymous said...

It is not about being "religious" but having a relationship with God. Religion can not save you but God can.

Unknown said...

I am a mother of 5 children and the father alienated the kids from me and now they are teenagers and they don't want to see me and they think that I never wanted or cared for them . And it is killing me and to see my children hurt and carry pain is devastating. I don't know how to prove to them that they were alienated from me. It's the worst pain ever.