I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Friday, June 19, 2009

New Fathers 4 Justice ~ Batman facing jail for M25 protest

A campaigner, believed to be linked to Fathers 4 Justice, dressed as Batman, stands on a gantry over the M25 near Heathrow Airport
Geoffery Hibbert caused a 55 mile tailback Photo: PA

Police were forced to cone off the entire London Orbital when Geoffrey Hibbert scaled an overhead sign and unfurled banners in protest of his treatment by the family courts on August 15 last year.

He stayed there for eight hours at junction 14 near Hillingdon, West London, causing tailbacks stretching up to 55 miles.

The property developer could face up to seven years in prison.

Adjourning sentencing until next month, Judge Alan Greenwood, said: " I leave you in no doubt whatsoever that this was a very serious offence indeed.

"I want to make it absolutely clear that this court does not regard the right to protest as the right to trample all over other people's rights.

"It certainly does not regard it as a right to seriously endanger other people which is what you did."

During a four-day trial at Harrow Crown Court, jurors watched TV footage of the protest which showed Hibbert dressed as a comic book hero with banners which showed the photograph of his nine-year-old daughter Chyann.

Giving evidence, he said: "I was trying to get the lawmakers to open their eyes. I was trying to do something for many other fathers and mothers who do not get to see their children. I was never in danger and I never put other people in danger."

Highways Agency staff and police took the decision to close all 12 lanes of M25 motorway during rush hour, which also caused severe delays on the M4.

Prosecutor Firona Horlick said: "No doubt there were people going to work, perhaps there were people going to Heathrow or Gatwick who missed their holidays, maybe members of the emergency services were stuck, maybe there were cars full of children.Mr Hibbert put himself above all of these people."

The conviction came as a pair men dressed as a Jester and The Incredible Hulk staged a protest on top of an Oxford tower, claiming to represent a Fathers 4 Justice splinter group, New Fathers 4 Justice.

The commodification of sperm

Barbara has the uncanny ability to burrow into the thought process of the victim feminist mind and deduce certain inconsistencies. This is clearly one more whereby the very people who sing the loudest in whining glory about being oppressed by the male patriarchy want to reproduce children, without the biodad interfering, and who are the essence of what they say is wrong with the world. Only sperm used from those males who are 5"11" in height is the bare minimum acceptable thank you very much they say. I've always said this brand of feminism do have "daddy" issues, probably from childhood and are more like children in adult bodies and frankly don't know what they really want. It is an ideolgy but has no sold foundation in fact only mythology.MJM

Barbara Kay

National Post Wednesday, June 17, 2009

http://www.nationalpost.com/todays-paper/story.html?id=1702952

A few months ago I took part in a mock debate whose annual tradition it is to task stand-up comics manques with raising optimal laughs around a deeply trivial theme.

The proposed resolution was "The short man is the better man." I argued this was a wince-inducing subject for the height-challenged male, equivalent to "The fat woman is the better woman," and furthermore a natural temptation to witless ribaldry. My objections falling on deaf ears, including some attached to short men, I manned up for the job as best I could.

Googling desperately, I came upon an informational tidbit that proved excellent (and only slightly ribald) fodder for debate laughs, but also seems an apt take-off point for my yearly Fatherless Day column, namely: Most sperm banks will not accept donations from men who stand under 5' 11" in height.

The sperm-seekers whose demand has produced this height restriction aren't giggly teenagers or desperate housewives addicted to Harlequin romances. They are strong, autonomous, educated, middle class, not-so-young women of ambition with support systems and resources sufficient to the logistical demands of child-rearing.

Whether childless because of sexual orientation, a ticking biological clock aligned with bad luck in the marriage market, or principled misandry, they view their future child's fatherlessness with sanguine confidence and a clear conscience.

Amongst such committed egalitarians in all other gender-related matters, then, logic would suggest a willingness to accept height parity, or at least diversity. So why are these father-cleansing feminists choosing to "mate" with a stereotypically patriarchal symbol of physical dominance?

Because deep inside, they aren't buying the utopian theories they've superficially endorsed. Freed from the hassle of meeting Mr. Right, and at liberty to conjure up Mr. Right DNA, even women mate-free by choice want to perpetuate via their future child's hologram sire the same symbols of male strength and protectiveness women have prized since time immemorial. Their decision to " disappear" their child's father says manliness isn't important; their atavistically-driven entries on the sperm bank checklist say it is.

We now take for granted the technology of alternate reproductive initiatives that marginalize men's contribution to the family, and by extension to society. But we shouldn't. Every child born with only half an identity -- the mother's --is a reproach to our decision, which began with the advent of the birth control pill in 1959, to privilege the sexual and reproductive rights of adults over the rights of children. For "adults," read "women."

Men took their cues from women. They soon internalized the feminist message that they had many responsibilities as fathers, but unlike mothers no natural rights, a rubric borne out in higher court judgments and countless custody narratives. Men's biological and social value, and their relationship to their issue, has for some time been contingent on women's wishes and perceived needs.

And yet countless studies confirm the opposite of what the very existence of sperm banks imply. Biological fathership matters. Fatherlessness figures disproportionately in every anti-social behaviour from school dropout to sexual pathology to hard criminality. A non-biological father figure in the home is the greatest indicator for child abuse.

There's no secret to healthy communities. Marriage is the key. It takes the same boring, bourgeois values and domestic strategies today, often referred to amongst cultural observers as "the plan" -- education first, then a job, then marriage and only then children -- as it did in 1950 to produce (on the whole, no personal anecdotes, please) secure, successful children.

Poverty is not the issue, as ideologues continue to insist. The same bourgeois values send many poor, but culturally traditional immigrants' children soaring to peaks of achievement.

The irony is that the theorists doling out the Kool-Aid aren't drinking it themselves. Marriage rates are going up amongst the educated middle class, and down amongst the uneducated, unskilled and unmotivated -- those least equipped to compensate for the negative effects of fatherlessness on children.

The commodification of sperm is a particularly hypocritical blot on the social landscape. Donor recipients cheat their children with society's blessing by mimicking the plan. They get their education and job first, but skip the crucial marriage part. Finally they parachute their "family" into stable, aspirational environments sustained by two-parent families. Sperm-donor mothers thus effectively freeload from the harvest sown by the very bourgeois constraints they exempted themselves from in their children's creation.

Sperm banks opened a Pandora's box. The inevitable coming debate: "The cloned child is the better child." Comedians may raise laughter from this not-so-trivial subject, but fathers -not so much.

bkay@videotron.ca