I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Parental Alienation Day 2012 in Barrie, ON, Canada








Parental alienation rises to surface



‘Children deserve to choose the right to be loved by both parents’

With more than 43% of the Canadian population divorcing, it’s likely you know someone who’s gone through a messy split.

When more than half of those divorces involving families with children, the messy factor ratchets up a notch to a painful custody battle where defeated parents will tell you nobody wins.

A dozen parents decked out with signs in their hands, and their hearts on their sleeves, met at Centennial Park after holding a small demonstration at the Barrie courthouse demanding change in family law.

The real weapons of mass destruction are the family court system, read a placard placed against the climbing equipment at the beach.

The dozen parents, equal parts men and women, stood unified in their pain as all admitted they’d lost custody of their children through long, messy court battles.

“The status quo has got to go,” said Sharon Neary, using her maiden name.
Neary says she has three children, but doesn’t see two of them due to a poor relationship with her ex-husband.

“It’s a form of mental and emotional abuse. Everybody knows about it, but now it’s got a name — parental alienation.

“Children deserve to chose the right to be loved by both parents.”

Paulette MacDonald, a former volunteer with the Parental Alienation group, and now a co-director with the Canadian Equal Parenting Council, said there are 42 organizations across the county pushing for family law reform for equal parenting.

“It removes the incentive for single custody in the legal system,” MacDonald said.

Once joint custody becomes mandatory, parents won’t use children as weapons against their former spouse and joint custody will ensure both parents play a part in their children’s life, she said.

Perched on the children’s playground equipment at the beach, MacDonald read a statement about forgiveness by Dr. Anita Vestal, who offered a free e-book entitled Making Friends with the “F” Word: 20 Practical Ways to Forgive to those in attendance.

At the end of the meeting, and perhaps as a metaphor for a child’s fragility, the assembled group blew bubbles into the cold, strong wind before leaving.

As the rainbow bubbles floated away, a set of twins in matching toques and coats chased them giggling, to the water’s edge.

2 comments:

Desert Hiker said...

I look at other countries and some US States with envy now. I live in California, USA and I use the Superior Court of Solano County. I noticed that Parental alienation has more attention in other places. The Solano Courts are still trying to determine if parental alienation exists. I know you mentioned in your blog that you are not attacking women, and I do not intend to attack most women. However, the reality in California is that Parental Alienation is going strong because the National Organization of women and strong supporters such as Senators Boxer and Feinstein. I think California will never again have the shine it did for so many because of this gridlock. I hope Canada can set a shining example of Court Reform for the US.

Dr. Jose Vera Gomez said...

My name is Jose Vera forensic psychiatryst from Paraguay. In my practice I see too many case of PAS. But many people thinks qhat it do not exist.
As mental health professional I think that I have to fight against these terrible situations that affect permanentely the minds of its victimis.
I want to tell you, if you don t know, that Brasil have a PAS`law since agost26th 2010. drjosevera@hotmail.com