I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Saturday, November 29, 2008

My father, my hero ~ David Warren The Ottawa Citizen

This is a column by David Warren of the Ottawa Citizen about family and what it can mean. It is the essence of our civilization and the most important building block in humanity - yet - there are so many operatives from lawyers, to DV do-gooders, welfare workers, family courts, biased assessors, biased support services, and feminists who may be some or all of the above, out to destroy it. MJM My father, my hero
David Warren
The Ottawa Citizen

An old man I know told me how he became a Roman Catholic, after an upbringing that would perhaps have better fitted him to become some sort of "humanist." He was young, at the rebellious age, and weighted more with questions than with answers. His relation with his father was tense and difficult, perhaps creatively so. His father died, and his world shattered. The inadequate Christian faith he had absorbed in childhood was tested, against grief, and found wanting.

On the question of weight, a lady I know said, "I remember when my father died, it felt like someone weighing five hundred pounds was sitting on my chest." People may do strange things under such circumstances. But usually they are muffled, quiet.

The man began sitting at the back of Catholic churches, during Mass. He needed something to do with all his time. Those were the days when the old Tridentine Mass was available everywhere; was the bond that held Catholics together. He did not go to church to look at the Catholics, he went as a spectator of that Mass. He was a young man with a classical education, and some poetry in his soul: he wanted to hear the Latin words and the music. (To this day, people who are not even slightly Catholic go to concerts, and buy CDs, to hear the old Mass ordinary -- because it has been set, gloriously and repeatedly, by so many of the world's greatest musical composers, over so many centuries.)

Went to hear, and inevitably, went to think, while the words of the Mass were sung for him, from the invocation of the Kyrie, a text old as the Psalms if not older: "Lord have mercy."

From one Mass, he was drawn curiously to another, until in due course his diverse thoughts organized themselves into a single thought. And that thought was: "This is the only thing that is equal to my father's death."

I learned of this when my own father died, the Sunday before last.

In much different circumstances: he was quite old, and I'm well into middle age; I'd already done my converting. Even when young, I never rebelled against my father, was never tempted to do so. I remember him as my hero from the age of two or three, and in all the half-century since I cannot remember a time at which he was not my hero. The reader may wonder at this, but I came from a very good home, with exemplary parents, and even an adoring little sister.

My mother by her own account "lucked out." Luck comes most often to the brave, however, for she married the man among her many suitors who had the poorest prospects: a young veteran of the war -- a daring young flyboy -- who may have looked splendid in his officer's uniform, but was now in a tuberculosis hospital. And worse, if he ever got out: some kind of artist. (He became a pioneering and accomplished industrial designer, but first he had to learn that trade.) She might have enjoyed great wealth and security, but she married for love and damn the torpedoes.

Now she is an ancient widow, in a nursing home, cherishing every remembered moment from more than 60 years of marriage to a man who was also her hero.

It is from raw, and prolonged experience that one learns what family means, and through it of the awesome power of love, reaching beyond the grave. But these are things that can never be communicated to outsiders. Each family is its own country, with its own culture, its own language, its own mythology, its own universe.

I've mentioned my father before in these columns, over the years, especially in November, around Remembrance Day -- both him, and his father, who went up Vimy Ridge, for Canada in France. They were warriors in their youth, but each in his turn a man for all seasons.

The family extends in space and time. I opened my father's pilot log, and found a photograph in it of him at the age of 19, at the controls of some aircraft I cannot identify. I was taken aback, for in the first glance I thought it was my elder son: the same insouciant look on the face, and the face itself bearing the family resemblance. It took me a moment to get the timeline straight: this is not my son, it is my father. My father.

David Warren's column appears Sunday, Wednesday and Saturday.

North Pole Toy Factory workers face more Lay-offs ~ from F,R.A.M.E.D.

FRAMED is not just about Father's, it's also about Children, Mothers, and Families. Right now the majority of Father's are at a disadvantage compared to mothers when it comes to parental rights.......these parental rights need to be equal between both fit Mother's and Father's! For the sake of our Children! Our constitutional/civil rights are being trampled on and it must stop now!

Saturday, November 29, 2008

North Pole Toy Factory workers face more Lay-offs


[Note: In these difficult economic times and with Christmas fast approaching, I was astonished to learn during my latest trip to the north pole that even up there they were suffering economic hardships. Surprisingly and to my amazement, it is not the high cost of fuel and food prices, wall street corruption, and the failing housing market, it is actually the domino effect of the biased and criminal Family Court rulings around the world that are causing difficulties at the North Pole. I thought it would be important that I wrote an article about my visit there and the economic stress Family Courts are causing not only in their economy at the North Pole, but also how it is threatening the meaning of Christmas as we know it.]

Santa Declares Family Courts are Destroying Children, Families, and Christmas!

By PrancnWolf,

As the destruction of families is increasing in America and around the world due to the family court systems, Santa has declared a worldwide emergency and crisis. Santa has stated that not only is his Toy Factory in danger of being shut down, Christmas itself is being threatened of actually becoming a day of sadness instead of a day of joy.

Santa has also firmly stated that due to the negative impact on children by family courts and single parent households, there is a chilling rise in the number of naughty children around the world and societies are in danger of becoming totally frozen in chaos. Santa claims that the Family Courts are causing a negative "snowball effect" when it comes to the stability and happiness in the families and children of the world today.

Santa emphasized that Fatherless children and homes are one of the leading causes of these breakdowns in society and the alarming rise in numbers of naughty children. He also mentions that Motherless homes are on the rise too and that no single parent home regardless of the parent’s gender is a healthy situation for any child. Santa also states that as some mothers lose custody, it is the fathers that have their children taken away from them in the majority of all custody disputes throughout the developed world. Santa believes that the Family Courts are one reason behind this destruction of the family.

Santa goes on to say:

"Children from fatherless homes account for:

  • · 63% of youth suicides. (Source: US Dept. of Health & Human Services, Bureau of the Census).
  • · 71% of pregnant teenagers. (Source: US Dept. of Health & Human Services
  • · 90% of all homeless and runaway children.
  • ·70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
  • · 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders. (Source: Center for Disease Control).
  • · 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger. (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol. 14, p. 403-26, 1978).
  • · 71% of all high school dropouts. (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools).
  • · 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers. (Source: Rainbows for all God`s Children).
  • · 85% of all youths sitting in prisons. (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992).

"And The State of Fatherhood," Santa continued,

  • ·37.9% of fathers have no access/visitation rights. (Source: p.6, col.II, para. 6, lines 4 & 5, Census Bureau P-60, #173, Sept 1991.) ·"40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse." (Source: p. 449, col. II, lines 3-6, (citing Fulton) Frequency of visitation by Divorced Fathers; Differences in Reports by Fathers and Mothers. Sanford Braver et al, Am. J. of Orthopsychiatry, 1991.)
  • · "Overall, approximately 50% of mothers "see no value in the father`s continued contact with his children...." (Source: Surviving the Breakup, Joan Kelly & Judith Wallerstein, p. 125)
  • ·Only 11% of mothers value their husband's input when it comes to handling problems with their kids. Teachers & doctors rated 45%, and close friends & relatives rated 16%.(Source: EDK Associates survey of 500 women for Redbook Magazine. Redbook, November 1994, p. 36)
  • ·"The former spouse (mother) was the greatest obstacle to having more frequent contact with the children." (Source: Increasing our understanding of fathers who have infrequent contact with their children, James Dudley, Family Relations, Vol. 4, p. 281, July 1991.)
  • ·"A clear majority (70%) of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children." (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Mary Ann Kock & Carol Lowery, Journal of Divorce, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 54, Winter 1984.)
  • ·"Very few of the children were satisfied with the amount of contact with their fathers, after divorce." (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Koch & Lowery, Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 50, Winter 1984.)
  • ·"Feelings of anger towards their former spouses hindered effective involvement on the part of fathers; angry mothers would sometimes sabotage father's efforts to visit their children." (Source: Ahrons and Miller, Am. Journal of Orthopsychiatry, Vol. 63. p. 442, July `93.)
  • ·"Mothers may prevent visits to retaliate against fathers for problems in their marital or post-marital relationship." (Source: Seltzer, Shaeffer & Charing, Journal of Marriage & the Family, Vol. 51, p. 1015, November 1989.)
  • ·In a study: "Visitational Interference - A National Study" by Ms. J Annette Vanini, M.S.W. and Edward Nichols, M.S.W., it was found that 77% of non-custodial fathers are NOT able to "visit" their children, as ordered by the court, as a result of "visitation interference" perpetuated by the custodial parent. In other words, non-compliance with court ordered visitation is three times the problem of non-compliance with court ordered child support and impacts the children of divorce even more. Originally published Sept. 1992

….and this is just the tip of the iceberg (no pun intended)" Santa said, with tears running down his face and turning into icicles.

Recently, Santa organized a rather large group of Elves to do research as to what is exactly causing these family courts to be so inhumane and damaging to families and children. Santa informed these Elves that the Toy Factory was 2 nd in priority to them now and that without happy children and families, the toy factory and Christmas would become irrelevant. Therefore, getting to the root cause of the problem was their #1 priority. The Elves in charge of the study began to call themselves, "Elves Love Families" or E.L.F. and Santa termed the research and study, "Operation – Families Matter"

Santa and the "E.L.F." group have released some of the data that they have come across and a full report is due for publication early in 2009.

Some of their findings in American and around the world are:

The Federal Government and governments around the world are using men, women, and children as currency for funding outrageous and illegal government programs.

That we as a society are behaving more immorally and unethical, and that we have lost the true meaning for marriage and family.

Dangerous and damaging loopholes involved with certain programs, such as the "No Fault Divorce" and "The Violence Against Women Act" programs; the divorce industry in general.

The lack of parents and society as a whole being able to stand up and demand that their rights be honored and not trampled on, or completely taken away from them, their families, and their children.

Judges, Attorneys, and the Divorce Industry have systematically taken the rights and responsibility to parent, away from the parents.

The Constitution is not working as it should and the Bill of Rights is continually neglected and ignored.

Federal incentive programs and government profits have become more important (priority) rather than what is in the best interest of families and children.

….the findings go on and on!

The brief also goes on to list certain articles already in the mainstream media. Santa was heard saying concerning these articles; "I cannot believe all these people are knowingly allowing this injustice to happen, I am totally saddened and ashamed."

Federal Incentives Make Children Fatherless


STEPHEN BASKERVILLE, PhD – Articles & Studies http://stephenbaskerville.net/articles-categorized.htm Gender Bias in our Family Court System http://www.fathermag.com/808/GenderBias.shtml The Federal Scheme to destroy Father-Child Relationships http://www.nolanchart.com/article2699.html A quick "Google" search will show that thousands more of these type of articles are available. Santa was also heard saying in anger, "…and I thought stepping in the yellow snow was messy, this injustice happening to families and children is like having your face rubbed in yellow snow…and then choking on it." Santa went on to say, "If something isn’t done soon to stop and/or reform these devastating laws and programs, I am afraid soon there will be no more Christmas’s to celebrate. The destruction of Children and Families will escalate and could easily become the largest human crisis in the history of mankind." As Santa is faced with laying off more Elves again this year and the possibility of the end of Christmas, as we know it, the destruction of Children and Families must stop! Many unemployed Elves are now working in secret with some parental right’s groups and are saying that some progress is being made, but not enough and not fast enough. An Elf who wishes to remain anonymous for fear of his life has stated, "Some of us Elves are trying to infiltrate the highest offices of government and work to change these destructive laws and programs." Many Elves have also stated that no matter how many of them try to help bring about change, they cannot do it alone. They are asking for your help and for you to get involved. One Elf named TickTock said, "After becoming unemployed I spent weeks sitting on my toy box watching the clock. I was acting like a victim and feeling sorry for myself. It was only after learning how many parents and children were in pain and going through injustice that I realized drowning in my own tears would not help a thing." TickTock went onto say while looking at his watch and the clock on the wall numerous times, "I am now involved in the reforming of family law and my life has taken a new direction. I am taking my skill of assembling toys and turning it into a tool to disassemble laws that destroy families!" Strangely, I noticed that TickTock and a couple of other Elves had one-way airline tickets to Washington D.C. They were also packing numerous disguises…. Santa showed great leadership abilities and had a well-disciplined and dedicated chain of command with his Elves, also a well laid out plan of action. Many of the "soldier Elves" looked as though they were preparing for a serious battle. They were all working together and not a sense of egotistic bickering or fear could be seen among them. Surprisingly, they seemed to be much more organized than most, if not all, Father’s and Parental rights groups and organizations in the "lower 48" and around the rest of the world. Who would of thought that a group of toy-making Elves could be this determined? As we all wonder about how many parents will be without their children this Christmas, and how many children without one parent or the other, we should be deeply saddened. This is not how it should to be, children deserve both fit parents! Children that are kidnapped unjustly for profit, from one fit parent, is abuse and inhumane to say the least. It’s not just about two parents putting aside their differences; it’s about the children having the opportunity to have access to both fit and loving parents to enhance their quality of life and their future. It would enhance the quality of life and the future for all of us. We need to unite folk’s and save our Families and Children. These Elves should be an inspiration to us! Remember, they cannot do this alone! We as parents are most responsible for action that is for the best interest of our children and families. These Elves can only walk and fight beside us. Get involved today, not tomorrow. If Santa and the Elves can help fight for our rights to be parents and for the rights of our children, so can YOU!!!! So can WE!!!! Together it will be our families and children that will prevail!!!! Not the greedy, inhumane, family destroying profiteers! GET INVOLVED!!!! Help Save our Children! Help Save our Families! Help Save Christmas!