I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Feminists remember the massacre of 14 women ~ again

Every year on December 6, 2008 the feminists draw our attention to the massacre of 14 women in Montreal at the hands of a deranged man and try and use the terrible tragedy to vilify all men as being somehow inherently violent. It serves their ends because gullible politicians, including Michael Ignatieff, our would be Prime Minister in waiting, fall for it. (see below). On the CBC thread it is easy to pick out the true feminists as my comments below, left on the site, describe.

Ceremony marks 19th anniversary of Montreal massacre

14 women killed by gunman at Montreal's l'École Polytechnique

Last Updated: Saturday, December 6, 2008 | 7:23 PM ET Comments32Recommend18

Community members and politicians gathered in Montreal Saturday to mark the 19th anniversary of Canada's worst mass shooting, which left 14 women dead.

Women gather Saturday at a memorial for the Polytechnique massacre in Montreal. Women gather Saturday at a memorial for the Polytechnique massacre in Montreal. (Ryan Remiorz/Canadian Press)

White roses were placed on monuments paying tribute to the women, who were gunned down at Montreal's l'École Polytechnique on Dec. 6, 1989, by Marc Lepine, 25, who blamed women for the failures in his life. He wounded ten other women and four men before killing himself.

"Together, men and women, let's act," said Michele Asselin, president of the Quebec Federation of Women.

"Let's break the wall of silence. Today, we're wearing the white ribbon in solidarity but every day we can act."

About 50 people, including community leaders and politicians from all three levels of government, attended the somber event at Montreal's Place du 6 Decembre.

The 14 monuments — sculptures engraved to honour each victim — are the site of an annual remembrance ceremony held on Dec. 6, which has become known as the national day of commemoration and action against violence against women.

Women's groups used the day of remembrance to demand more resources to fight violence against women.

"We ask [for] a large education campaign to increase the knowledge of people who work with victims: Crown prosecutors, judge, social workers … and also to raise the awareness of fellow citizens," said Louise Riendeau, who spoke on behalf of a coalition of women's shelters in Montreal.

Aboriginal women were pointed out as being especially vulnerable to violence. Last month, the United Nations called on the Canadian government to investigate why hundreds of deaths and disappearances of aboriginal women remain unsolved.

"Canada and the U.S. have the right to protect all people equally under the law. Canada has failed miserably," said Ellen Gabriel, president of Quebec Native Women Inc.

"Violence against women is a human rights violation. I don't think there's enough seriousness taken by the authorities and enough proper training given to authorities in regards to conjugal violence and violence in general."

Advocates also implored political leaders to continue efforts towards strengthening gun-control laws.

Anastasia's Law, which prohibits firearms in schools and on public transit, and requires gun club owners to report suspicious behaviour, came into effect in Quebec in September.

With files from the Canadian Press
Comments by this scribbler on the CBC site. We have some well and true feminists on board this thread like joeleena and are sputtering the standard vitriol that any man or indeed other person who has a difference of opinion is a misogynist. She is the type no doubt who would accuse her male partner of DV for having the same difference of opinion. The facts are that females initiate domestic violence against men in almost the same number as the reverse. There is perhaps a 1% difference in Canada and close to 50-50 in the USA. In addition lesbians have a much higher rate of DV against each other than do hetero. couples. Last time I checked Lesbians were female. The worst place in terms of safety of children is to give custody to a single parent female but courts do it in a 9-1 ratio shutting out loving fathers. Feminists do themselves a great disservice by spouting the hyperbole they do as, in my view, it just shows the very selfish agenda they have at the expense of 50% of the population they vilify. The idiot who killed the women was the son of an Algerian muslim who taught his son Islamic control of women before the family split. He changed his name to a his mother's maiden name, and he apparently had mental health issues. Shame on you feminists. If you believe in equality stop the vilifying of all men because one badly damaged male, brought up in a single parent female household did this deed. This is a sample of the feminist answer to people who have a difference of opinion. See the automatic reference to them "hating" a complete gender also known as misogyny. Such hyberbole does a great disservice to the cause of a serious matter of violence against women and violence against any gender
joeleena wrote:Posted 2008/12/07 at 8:35 AM ETIt still amazes me and frightens me that people like Alan Harisson and Dude Man have such fear? hatred? against a gender that is trying to have equality in our patriarchal society. Not only to the 14 women killed in Montreal almost two decades, but to the over 350 women and children killed in Ontario since 1995 by their partners, boyfriends, husbands, I say STOP THE KILLING OF INNOCENT WOMEN AND CHILDREN and let women have a voice and a place to speak out about this. December 6th is a National Day of mourning ....can't you just let it happen without calling us names.
Michael Ignatieff' s naive and wrong comments regarding DV and observations from Canada's foremost expert on Domestic Violence.
From: Dr. Don Dutton Sent: December 6, 2008 4:38 PM To: 'michael@michaelignatieff.ca' Subject: The reality of domestic violence Dear Mr Ignatieff: As a former academic you should have some respect for the data on domestic violence - not the unsubstantiated claims of "advocates". Men and women are victims of partner abuse at roughly equal rates in Canada and with roughly equal results. Husband abuse is covered up by advocates or dismissed as not serious. An entirely new approach to partner violence is needed in this country- one that eschews simplistic gender explantions and focuses on the psychology and risk factors of spousal violence. We have the data and results to do this. All that is lacking is the political will. Please take the time to inform yourself about the data that clearly say the following 1) that the biggest risk for child homicides is the biological mother 2) that partner violence is predictable from early assessments of either the male or female participant 3) that physical and emotional risks to males are much higher than the dv- industry acknowledges 4) that the incidence of stereotypical "wife assault" is much lower than currently believed and far from the most common pattern of family violence.
Dr Don Dutton
Department of Psychology
University of British Columbia
From: michael@michaelignatieff.ca Reply-to: Michael_Ignatieff_rtbssqv@cmpgnr.com To: rdreid3785@aol.com Sent: 12/6/2008 3:48:16 P.M. Eastern Standard Time Subj: Putting an end to violence against women - Mettre fin à la violence contre les femmes
Une version en français suit. Nineteen years ago today, 14 young women were murdered at l'École Polytechnique de Montréal, marking one of the darkest days in our nation's history. This unconscionable act of violence can never be forgotten. On this National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women, I, along with all Canadians, join with the families and friends of the victims to mourn their loss. Violence against women continues to be a terrifying reality for women of all backgrounds across Canada. Women in poverty, aboriginal women, and women living with disabilities are at particular risk of threats, assault and abuse. * Even today, nearly one in three Canadian women are victims of spousal abuse. This cannot continue. As we look back on the tragedy at l'École Polytechnique, we remember not only these 14 women, but also, on their behalf, all of the women and girls—in Canada and around the world—who face violence and discrimination as an intolerable part of their daily lives. We must harness all of our collective efforts to prevent these injustices. All Canadians, regardless of gender or background, have the right to live in a country free from discrimination and abuse. Today, I hope that all Canadians will join with me in the fight for gender equality and support all efforts to prevent and protect women from violence. The tragedy of December 6, 1989 must remain with us today and all days, if we are to overcome the shared national tragedy that this anniversary represents. Michael

Self-Loathing, opportunistic, vote-seeking, pandering Canadian male politician and member of the Canadian parliament

The following is an example of a mother's abuse against her children. Please be forewarned it may make you feel uncomfortable while reading it.

'Perfect mother' massacred her five children by slitting their throats while husband was away

By Mail Foreign Service

10th December 2008

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1093211/Perfect-mother-massacred-children-slitting-throats-husband-away.html A 'perfect' mother massacred her five children by calling them one by one into her bedroom and slitting their throats, a Belgian court has been told. Genevieve Lhermitte, 42, said she felt desperate and trapped alone at home with the children - four girls and a boy aged between 14 and three - while her husband Bouchaib Moqadem was away visiting his parents in Morocco. On the day of the killings last year, which left Belgium in shock, she stole two knives from a supermarket and cooked a farewell lunch for the family before locking the front door and starting the massacre, the court in Nivelles, near Brussels, was told. The oldest victim, 14-year-old Yasmine was too big for her to handle so she used a trick, she said. She told the girl that she was going to blindfold her because she wanted to prepare a surprise for her. Then when the teenager was unable to see she hit her over the head with a heavy marble tabletop, knocking her out before also killing her with a knife. She phoned the police before trying to commit suicide by plunging the knife into her breast. Police found her body spread-eagled in the hall. She later told police she felt "desperate and trapped" at having to be at home with the children while her husband was away, the court heard. The judge was told that Lhermitte's role as wife and mother was disturbed by the presence in the family home of a middle-aged Belgium doctor, Michel Schaar who paid most of the family's bills. 'He lived with us he even went on our honeymoon and slept in our room. We had to wait until he fell asleep before we could make love,' she said in court. 'I found that weird but Bouchaib said he regarded him as his stepfather. I think the doctor loved my husband in a platonic way. 'He watched TV with us in the evenings and went on holiday with us in the summer. We depended on him financially." Lhermitte was asked in court why she laid the dead body of her 13-year-old daughter Nora in the bathroom used by Dr Schaar. She said: 'I wanted to hurt him. Nora was his favourite.' On the day before the murders Lhermitte said she phoned her psychiatrist who had been treating her for several years. But he was unable to give her an appointment. Her lawyer Xavier Magnee told the jury of eight women and four men: 'Your task is to discover why a woman who had hitherto been a perfect mother suddenly exploded.' Lhermitt has since divorced her husband whom she accused of never having any understanding of her problems. She said: 'I gave him a son and killed him. I've lost all children through my own fault. They never deserved it. 'I shall suffer to the end of my days - that is my punishment.' The trial continues.