I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Sunday, June 21, 2009

'Superhero' fathers climb cranes

Two men from the group New Fathers 4 Justice (NF4J) have staged a Father's Day protest by climbing cranes dressed as Banana Man and Captain America.

David Hodge and Sean Wheeler scaled the cranes beside Newport Leisure Centre in south Wales at 0700 BST on Sunday to highlight fathers' rights.

Mr Hodge came back down at around 1000 BST and Mr Wheeler followed at 1045 BST and both were arrested by police.

Matthew Starmore from NF4J said both wanted changes in the law.

Mr Hodge, who was dressed as Captain America, had been apart from his three children for 15 years, said Mr Starmore.

"He's not been a part of their growing up and he's gone through a great deal of psychological trauma because of it," he said.

Mr Wheeler broke up with his partner last year and has full access to his son but decided to protest because he feels so strongly that the justice system is unfair, said Mr Starmore.

He said he did not know what they had been arrested for but suspected it was for trespass.

He said both men were taken to Newport central police station.

Gwent Police sent officers to the scene to ensure the safety of the protestors and the public, they said.

Traffic diversions were put into place.

Story from BBC NEWS: http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/2/hi/uk_news/wales/8111434.stm Published: 2009/06/21 16:52:01 GMT © BBC MMIX

Why men and dad's are shown as Buffoons in media commercials and TV Shows

Even though it is men who have invented almost every important thing since the dawn of time, explored and discovered every corner of our planet and beyond, have fought most every war and died to give every person freedom where it exists we are in a state of time where it is fine to treat us as trash. Why? Because we are too "manly" to fight back. We, as we do with Domestic Violence and emotional abuse, perpetrated on us by females "suck it up." We are our own worst enemy. It is beginning to be heard though as this column in the National Post attests. One of our own Fathers Rights Advocates, Don Dymond, is quoted. What is the reason why ad agencies and TV producers do this to men. It sells - why else. Did you know that women make about 90% of the buying decisions? Whose fault is that? We men are good delegators but it comes at a price. Advertising agencies and TV producers target the buyers of products and to do this they denigrate men and praise women. It is so patronizingly simple. Make the woman look good and she will dutifully believe it and purchase the product. Its time for more men like Don Dymond and Jeremy Swanson to stand up and tell these folks we will boycott their products and not allow them into our homes. Paper towels can bio degrade in the humus out back just nicely and after a one time of laying down the law about appropriate purchases you can be assured they will not be show up again in a home where a man is resident. MJM
National Post

Saturday, June 20, 2009

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Jeer old dad

When it comes to television advertising, it's open season on fathers

Mary Vallis, National Post

In commercial after commercial on TV, the image of the modern husband and father is one of the buffoon -- trapped in a shed he built without doors, staring blankly at spilled juice, gorging on dog cookies until his ever-capable wife comes to the rescue.

Such ads are a mainstay because they work: They make viewers laugh, and they sell. And, also, critics argue, because such stereotyping remains socially acceptable.

"WASP men are the greatest target in advertising. The reason I say that is they are the only safe target in advertising," said Terry O'Reilly of Pirate Toronto, a leading audio advertising firm, and host of The Age of Persuasion, a CBC radio show.

"When you make fun of a white, Anglo-Saxon male, husband, dad, you don't get a single letter of complaint."

In his 30-year career in advertising, Mr. O'Reilly has never received a letter from anybody offended by the gentle fun he pokes at dads.

But in an age when fathers are expected to take on a greater role at home--changing diapers and clipping coupons, while also earning a paycheque -- portrayals of Dad as a bumbling fool are troubling to those who would like to see more equality in the domestic realm.

"It's deeply sexist, but what's even more troubling is that it's invisible as a form of sexism," said Dr. Kerry Daly, who runs the Fatherhood Involvement Research Alliance at the University of Guelph.

"They laugh, and it's funny, so there's the licence to laugh without the concern for the impact that it has. And I think it does have a significant impact, in continuing to reinforce negative behaviours associated with fathering and men's behaviour."

Fathers' rights advocates have begun boycotting companies that run ads they deem offensive. Since 2004, the Advertising Standards Council of Canada, the advertising industry's regulatory agency, has upheld seven complaints against advertisers accused of treating men unfairly.

In one of the cases, a father in Calgary filed a complaint against home-improvement store Rona. The spot showed a female customer lamenting that her husband does not help around the house.

A female salesperson responded, "They're all like that, aren't they?" The advertising council deemed the clerk's comment "disparaging" because it implied all husbands are lazy.

Such depictions of men frustrate Don Dymond, a fathers' rights activist and chemical engineer in Fort St. John, B. C. One night last January, he sat in front of his television and took notes as he watched how often men were portrayed as "smart," or "dumb" or "neutral." Tallying his notes, he concluded the ads portrayed men as dumb five times more often than women.

One of the offenders in his admittedly unscientific survey was Bounty paper towels. In the ad, a man and his son watch spilled liquid seeping toward a rug, as a glass still lays on its side in front of them.

As they debate how many paper towel sheets it will take to clean up the spreading mess (three-or four-sheeter?), Mom capably settles the debate, ripping off one sheet of paper towel and walking over to clean up.

"Once you open your mind to it, and you sit and you watch every single commercial on TV, anybody would start seeing this," Mr. Dymond said. He fears the effect they will have on his young sons. "What message are we sending out? ... If none of this turns around, what do we think it's going to be like in 20 years?"

Alison Thomas, a college professor of sociology in B. C., ponders the same question. Her own husband often cringes when offending ads flash on their television screen.

For years, Prof. Thomas has studied the depiction of parental roles in Mother's Day and Father's Day cards.

Her research, gleaned from studying hundreds of greeting cards, shows that fathers are typically characterized as flatulent, lazy shirkers who are subordinate to their wives and flounder with household tasks. Mothers, on the other hand, are portrayed as always there, always busy and always right.

Such humourous messages could have far-reaching consequences for both genders, Prof. Thomas said.

"It reinforces for women and men alike the idea that this really isn't men's normal home turf, that they're not able to be good at it, and therefore, why bother?" Prof. Thomas said.

"As a feminist, I find that problematic, because while it appears to be empowering women -- saying women are superior, women are supermoms, they can do everything, men can't really do this stuff -- what's the outcome going to be? That women carry on doing it all."



A father is helping his daughter do Internet research. "So it's kind of encyclopedia-ish," the father says. "It is an encyclopedia. No ish," his daughter replies, unfazed. The man's wife enters and asks whether he is going to wash the dog. He agrees to the chore, but immediately turns back to the computer, saying he is helping his daughter with a school project. The daughter sends a pleading look to her mother, begging to be left alone. The man's wife calls him away.


A woman arrives home to hear a buzzing and a squeal from her husband, who is upstairs. She finds him in front of a mirror, tattooing a backward lucky "7" on his chest in the mirror. When she tells him the tattoo is backward, he laughs, shakes his head and says, "No, it' isn't." She widens her eyes, says OK, and leaves the room. Panicked, he turns back to the mirror, in which the image appears the right way. "Phew!" he says.


A man asks his family if they want to go camping. The spot then shifts to a dream sequence of what the mother envisions the trip to be: The husband burns himself on a campfire, sticks his fingers together with marshmallow goo, stumbles on the rocks and hits himself in the face with a canoe paddle. The wife then visualizes herself applying Polysporin to his wounds, smiles and agrees to go. The children cheer.


A woman stroking her dog calls Pepto-Bismol and reports, "I want to know if we're covered. Last night, Rex got into everything ... chips, tapioca, ice cream, leftover moo shu and, of course, dog treats." When the company's clerk says they do not cover dogs, the shot widens to reveal the woman's husband groaning in an easy chair, holding his stomach. "Oh, no, Charlie is my dog. Rex is my husband," she says.


In the ad, a man and his son sit watching spilled liquid seep towards a rug, as a glass lays on its side in front of them. As they debate how many paper towel sheets it will take to clean up the spreading mess (three-or four-sheeter?), Mom comes in and settles the debate, quickly ripping off one sheet of paper towel and walking over to clean up.


A father passing by a Subway shop with his family notices a sign for a new sub and asks if he can get one. "Not now, Chris is late for his practice," the wife says, stroking the hair of her son, who is holding a soccer ball. The husband begins to beg and plead with his wife and throws a childlike tantrum, stomping his feet and putting his fingers in his ears while yelling, "I want that Subway sandwich now!" The man's son tells him to grow up. "You grow up!" the husband retorts.

Ads show men as incompetent, childish
National Post, Saturday, June 20, 2009

Victim Feminists in Calgary know no bounds in raising money on the backs of Fathers

The Victim Feminists involved in the Domestic Violence/Shelter Industry in Calgary demonstrate loudly and without mercy what they think of the 'sanctity' and importance of Fathers Day? It is on Page 6 in the Calgary Sun. Saturday 20th June 2009 and on the 21st, Fathers Day. Isn't this the same newspaper who promotes its sales by featuring scantily clad females. Why would they do that? To attract male readers of course. Do they not think we are sensitive to being slandered on our own special weekend?
Note the largest word is DONATE. Its all about money and even though DV is pretty much equal between genders and mothers in the USA and Australia the greatest predators and killers of children in addition to being the greatest abusers of children in the USA they have no shame in picking Fathers Day as an opportunistic way to get more money? Nothing related to men is sacred after all we are the patriarchy and the oppressors. From Political Commentator True Blue and Jeremy Swanson:
"Switch Newspapers" Calgary/Alberta activists urge
This below From our Ontario comrade and friend "True Blue" Re; Alberta provincial and federal tax dollars at work -in full glaring colour.('hate advertising'?) Imagine how much that advert cost in er....'government' money? On Fathers Day for Heaven's sake ! !
Surely this is high now time for our politicians to put an end to this funded misandry and put these outrageous hate groups out of business once and for all?
btw, anyone wondering ` how do gender bigots celebrate Fathers Day using our tax dollars ? ' Answer's the usual: with sexist slandering & demonizing of ALL males. Imagine the public reaction if ads were run on Mothers Day warning of the statistically far more probable maternal homicide and injury violence threat to children ??
The following is a recommendation from Jeremy Swanson of Fathers Can with which I concur. The ad promotes misandry on every Father's Special Day.
In consultation this evening it was agreed that this is nothing short of 'hate advertising with further intent to profit'. Activists-especially Alberta activists and supporters are urged to note the media which carried this shameless advert on Fathers Day weekend and consider a boycott of that newspaper. Calgary area and other Alberta FR activists have been in contact and have indicated they are urging activists, supporters, families and all consumers in Calgary and surrounds to switch their daily newspaper from the Calgary Sun to the Calgary Herald and also to take out subscriptions and buy the National Post as their National Daily. They have requested that all activists and supporters spread the word of this boycott.

A Father is For Life, Not Just Conception Condom anyone?

1-888-F4J Canada

Press release

Contact: Kris Titus Phone: 1-888-345-2262 ext.703


For Immediate Release June 21, 2009
A Father is For Life, Not Just Conception
Condom anyone? F4J Fathers 4 Justice Canada is using their website to urge men to use a condom, before they need to call an organization like theirs because they get caught in the FLAW system.
"Men in Canada need to quite literally start protecting themselves from the flawed family law system. They can spend 30 cents now or pay $30,000 or more later in courts costs to see their kids 4 days a month. Dads are just not seen as important," says Kris Titus, National Coordinator of F4J Fathers 4 Justice in Canada.
In the week leading up to Fathers Day there have been so many different interpretations of Dads it’s hard to know what a father is these days, never mind what we think they should be.
Oprah features a single dad with 9 children, the National Post features an article on the importance of sperm in child development, and of course two Fathers 4 Justice campaigners proclaim from Carfax tower in England that “A Father is For Life, Not Just Conception.”
The saying resounds with fathers around the world. Not only does it relay to the public and politicians that fathers have a right to raise their children, it also sends an important message to dads that if you have a child, you should be responsible.
It is this need for a balance between rights and responsibilities behind Federal Bill C-422 to amend the Divorce Act in favor of a presumption of equal parenting upon divorce, introduced by MP Maurice Vellacott, supported by MPs Steven Blaney and Raymonde Folco.
“Right now the focus is on litigation not restoration. Money talks and Dads are forced to walk away because they cannot afford to fight for their children any longer. We need to start asking why they should even have to!” says Kris Titus.
From the perspective of a child, Fathers 4 Justice JR Justice Leaguer with a cause, Katy, truly says it best, “Happy Fathers Day from all the invisible children. Even though some of us don’t know who you are, we still think of you on your special day and about the bonds we would have shared.”
Here’s the link to Katy’s Father’s Day message to all the Fathers and Grandfathers out there who feel like a broken record. http://www.f4jcanada.com/Katy/SaveKaty.html
THIS Fathers day, let’s really think about what Fathers mean to children, to families, and to society and let's give them all the support, love and respect that they deserve.
CONTACT: National Coordinator, Kris Titus 1-888-345-2262 ext. 703

National Website for more information about F4J Fathers 4 Justice Canada Canada: www.f4jcanada.ca

National Action website: www.f4jcanada.com
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